drawn-out breakup
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| Tue, 07-26-2005 - 12:03am |
I recently broke up with a boyfriend of two years due to major problems with incompatibility. However, we still see each other and are physically affectionate (kissing and cuddling). I'm afraid to stop the kissing because I'm too scared to make a complete break from him and we still love each other. Also, I recently kissed a male roomate while slightly intoxicated (him more so than myself...). I am starting to develop some feelings for the roomate although I realize it is a BAD, BAD idea...especially because I don't think he really has any for me AND he's moving out soon.
I am afraid to tell my ex-boyfriend about the roomate because I'm afraid of him not wanting to speak to me. I want to kiss the roomate again but realize it could lead to an awkward situation in the house as well as problems between myself and my ex.
Should I be able to kiss whoever I want without having to tell the ex? Would it be a bad idea to kiss the roomate again, should it come up, or should I do it in an effort to try to move on? Most importantly, why it is seemingly impossible to just STOP THINKING ABOUT GUYS FOR A SECOND??? Seriously, why do we over-analyze every small gesture to the point of losing touch with reality??

sasa4816....
Pianoguy can sum up your situation in one word: INSECURITY!
It's obvious that you need to have some sort of a 'male figure' in your life...or else you could've made a "clean break" with the EX before you took up with the roommate!
Do yourself and both men a favor.....GET YOUR HEAD ON STRAIGHT....and then decide if either of these gentlemen is really worth having as a friend....or possibly something more? If you permit yourself to be "used and abused" because you're afraid to BE ALONE, you'll probably wind up EXACTLY THAT WAY!
Pianoguy
Get your head on straight.