Dreaming of him still...
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Dreaming of him still...
| Fri, 02-02-2007 - 5:16pm |
I still dream about my ex on a regular basis and we broke up 7 months ago. I don't know how to make it stop. I try to fantasize about other guys and see other people but I don't feel attracted to them the way I felt with my ex. I'm afraid I'll never really like someone else. The NC rule is close to impossible for me and I see him with his new gf alot so my healing is on slow-motion... We both want to be friends very much since we have a good connection. For months, I have been switching from "I'm over him and am happy we're still friends" to "Why aren't we together and why is he with her?".. Since the breakup I feel extremely alone and being around a slew of couples makes me feel even more alone.
Any suggestions?

I know how you feel. I am kind of going through the same thing, only he doesn't have a new gf yet. We broke up almost 2 years ago. We took a little time apart and are now back to being good friends. I actually think of him as one of my best friends. Still, in the back of my mind I am constantly wondering why he doesn't want more. We get along SO well, and he gets jealous (in a cute way, not a mad way) when I date someone else. We just had a bit of a fight tonight over some girl that decided to call him last night out of the blue. I was jealous and it showed, so he got agitated with me. Now I am sitting here crying.
Here's my advice for you....it probably isn't healthy to stay friends with him when you want more. You are a lot stronger than I am for being able to handle seeing him with his new GF. I think I would need counseling in that situation. ;) Hang in there, and know that you are not alone.