Dreaming of him...why?

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Registered: 07-06-2004
Dreaming of him...why?
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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:59am

Hi everyone! It's been a month now and I haven't heard nothing from my son's father. I am mad that he hasn't called but he is too busy with his beer(which he thinks is his first priority). Anyways, I am feeling really good as far as I know he is an alcoholic and I don't want that in my life or my children's life either. I know what I want and I won't settle for less and I've been doing a lot of soul-searching and reading on alcoholism and it's helping me alot! But the question I have is why have I been dreaming of him so much and his new "girlfriend". It's not like I want him back...because I don't, but just about every night I have dreams and I wake up missing him but then reality hits and I know I don't want anything to do with him (other for him to be a dad to our son). Why am I dreaming that I want him ?? when I don't?

Anyone else been through this? or any advice? Thanks for listening!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:04pm
I had a shrink tell me that we sometimes work things out through our dreams. So, although your concious mind knows that what you're doing is for the best, maybe there's a small part of you that still misses the "old" him, or wonders if he's happier with her....just completely speculating, but any of those emotions would be normal to be having. Maybe dreaming and then waking and thinking "Where did THAT come from!" is helping your head and your heart to come together.