Drunken E-mails

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2007
Drunken E-mails
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Sat, 05-05-2007 - 11:27pm
HAS ANYONE EVER SENT A DRUNKEN E-MAIL???? I NEED TO KNOW I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE. I SENT AN E-MAIL TO MY EX A LITTLE OVER A WEEK AGO- FOR CLOSURE, FOR MY OWN SAKE. I GUESS I WANTED THE LAST WORD. WOULDN'T YOU KNOW, I RECEIVED ONE BACK A FEW DAYS LATER. PROBLEM.... I WANTED CLOSURE AND I WANTED TO BE THE BIGGER PERSON- THE E-MAIL WAS VERY POSITIVE THAT I SENT, AND I DID NOT EXPECT A RESPONSE, TO PUT IT SIMPLY- AS I SAID BEFORE "I WANTED TO HAVE THE LAST WORD. ANYWAYS- I HAVEN'T READ THE RESPONSE YET AND IT HAS BEEN A WEEK. I SUPPOSE THE REASON IS...ONE: THAT I DON'T WANT TO BE HURT AGAIN- MEANING THE E-MAIL COULD BE NEGATIVE OR MEAN. ON THE OTHER HAND... I AM CURIOUS AS TO WHAT IT SAYS. MY QUESTION IS THIS... WOULD YOU READ THE E-MAIL AND TAKE THE CONSEQUENCES- OR DELETE THE E-MAIL AND KNOW YOU GOT WHAT YOU WANTED TO SAY OFF YOUR CHEST AND BE SATISFIED. PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU WOULD DO- THANKS IN ADVANCE
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-28-2006
In reply to: a6718
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 9:41am

Oh yes, I would have to read it, if its bad, at least take the bad news while you are in the hurting phase, and if its cordial, you will be ok with that too.

I did that exact thing on Friday, right after we broke up (wasn't drinking) sent the how can you just let me go that easily, etc

His response... "PLEASE STOP EMAILING THIS ADDRESS"

Another shot to the heart!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2007
In reply to: a6718
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 9:49am
Hmmmm...that is a tough one! Personally I would delete it and be happy that I got what I needed off my chest....I've fallen into that trap before of starting up the 'positive' e-mailing to an ex and gotten back together, only to go through the same breakup again! Was a lot tougher the second go round! Just broke it off with my BF the night before last, and am glad I've not had the contact with him (again)...I think a clean break is best! Hope that helps!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2007
In reply to: a6718
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 9:48pm
STILL HAVEN'T HAD THE GUTS TO READ IT. I GUESS I WANT TO MAKE SURE THAT EITHER WAY IT IS NOT GOING TO UPSET ME. IF BY ANY CHANCE IT WOULD SAY -HE WANTS TO GET BACK TOGETHER- I ALSO WANT TO BE SURE THAT I WON'T LET THAT PULL ME BACK IN- RIGHT NOW I'M FINE -I WANT TO BE COMPLETELY OVER HIM BEFORE I READ THAT E-MAIL.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2007
In reply to: a6718
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 9:56pm
Your advice does help- I still haven't read it- but I'm not quite sure if I want to delete it either. My friend- who is the only one I told besides this message board- said to forward it to her and she would tell me if I should read it or not. I am not sure about that - because I think I need to decide what to do and when I do it. I'm thinking I'll just let it hang until I am positive that I am over this. That way no matter what it says I won't care- or mabe in time I will be able to just delete it because again- I just won't care. What do you think?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2006
In reply to: a6718
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 1:20pm

If you sent an email to your ex for "closure", you have no need to open and read his email in response to the one you sent.

Closure, means "end of story", not "sequel".

Youve said what you wanted to say, got it off your chest, you're done with it and you're ready to move on.

mblade2006

"Just because everything is different 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2007
In reply to: a6718
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 10:17pm
Well...I still have to go with the deleting suggestion...I know it's a tough one! I just think that if you decide that you are over it all and read the e-mail, it will put you back in a bad space (if it's not good), or if it is good put you back to doubting how you feel with everything that's happened....