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The dull ache
| Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:04pm |
Last night I had a bad dream. I dreamed that someone told me
| Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:04pm |
Last night I had a bad dream. I dreamed that someone told me
Me too.
Hi mdrsfr,
I think everything you feel is normal.
I think this is where I am right now:
The third stage is depression and despair. This is the most difficult stage The excitement and drama of the breakup is over and you're left with the emptiness of the loss. Any past abandonments you may have struggled with , which you might have also experienced in the anger stage could come up for you now which could contribute to you feelings of sadness and depression. This can be a painful time for you but it is necessary for you to go through this stage in order to move on to a new relationship. If you stay in denial you will remain haunted by your past. However if you're feeling so depressed that you are having difficulties functioning (you stop working, eating, sleeping) you might be clinically depressed and it may be necessary for you to consult a medical doctor or psychiatrist.
Oh my gosh, MDRSFR, I so hear you.
Today I went to lunch and thought I was feeling better. I even went somewhere I've never been before - you know, to try and make new memories. When I was buying my soup the guy at the checkout said: How are you? I said "OK." Then he said, "Really?" I almost lost it, right there. I almost burst into tears and told the soup checkout guy how awful I'm feeling. Luckily, I've got some dignity left and I just nodded and choked down my soup.
What amazes me is how many other women are going through this very same thing. You said it's been one week for you - me too. How crazy is it that our worlds both came to screeching haults at the same time. It's comforting to know you're not alone, but heartbreaking to know that others are feeling just as awful as me.
I'm trying to give in to my feelings more, but I'm also scared that I'll remain this Mopey McMoperson that I've become.
Feeling your Pain - J