The dull ache

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2005
The dull ache
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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:04pm

Last night I had a bad dream. I dreamed that someone told me

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: mdrsfr
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:19pm
I know your feeling.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: mdrsfr
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:26pm
It's weird when you're just set off randomly. It's like I'm running out of ideas to keep me busy. I wonder if that's bad, like maybe i need to just sit and actually go "through" it, and stop trying to be so busy. Just not sure...

 

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: mdrsfr
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:33pm

Me too.

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Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: mdrsfr
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:44pm
I'm also feeling insanely jealous of other people's happiness today. How do i move past that and put on a happy face? Does this happen to anyone else too?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: mdrsfr
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 2:38pm

Hi mdrsfr,


I think everything you feel is normal.

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Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: mdrsfr
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 2:44pm

I think this is where I am right now:


The third stage is depression and despair. This is the most difficult stage The excitement and drama of the breakup is over and you're left with the emptiness of the loss. Any past abandonments you may have struggled with , which you might have also experienced in the anger stage could come up for you now which could contribute to you feelings of sadness and depression. This can be a painful time for you but it is necessary for you to go through this stage in order to move on to a new relationship. If you stay in denial you will remain haunted by your past. However if you're feeling so depressed that you are having difficulties functioning (you stop working, eating, sleeping) you might be clinically depressed and it may be necessary for you to consult a medical doctor or psychiatrist.

 

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Registered: 10-08-2007
In reply to: mdrsfr
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 2:54pm

Oh my gosh, MDRSFR, I so hear you.


Today I went to lunch and thought I was feeling better. I even went somewhere I've never been before - you know, to try and make new memories. When I was buying my soup the guy at the checkout said: How are you? I said "OK." Then he said, "Really?" I almost lost it, right there. I almost burst into tears and told the soup checkout guy how awful I'm feeling. Luckily, I've got some dignity left and I just nodded and choked down my soup.


What amazes me is how many other women are going through this very same thing. You said it's been one week for you - me too. How crazy is it that our worlds both came to screeching haults at the same time. It's comforting to know you're not alone, but heartbreaking to know that others are feeling just as awful as me.


I'm trying to give in to my feelings more, but I'm also scared that I'll remain this Mopey McMoperson that I've become.


Feeling your Pain - J

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Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: mdrsfr
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 4:48pm
Yup, i feel you! I have a co-worker who just moved into a new place with his GF of three months. They are really in that happy place and every time he talks about it I want to throw up and say, F*ck you! ha ha. Even though deep down I am happy he's happy. ha! I like coming here because I don't have to feel guilty about feeling down when I want to. I literally have to put on a poker face (but i'm not very good at it) because people forget what it's like to be going through something so horrible. And even though I'm doing everthing "right" it just feel so wrong. I don't know...one step at a time. sigh...