Dumped!!!

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Registered: 04-12-2006
Dumped!!!
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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 5:19pm

I'm 39 and was dating a man 46, divorced with 3 kids, for 3 months. I completely fell in love with him. He is a devoted father and just a wonderful person in general. Even though we didn't get to spend a lot of time together, the actual time spent was amazing, and beyond what i've ever known in a relationship. We spoke almost daily and if not then we texted back and forth. He also just started a new business and is trying to get it up and running.

He just recently came to me to say he doesn't have time to put 100% into a relationship and that I deserve 100%. I am crushed and heartbroken now. I felt completely blindsighted. Our talk was emotional with us BOTH crying. Maybe i'll appreciate his honesty down the line, but what do with all of these feelings. I'm sick over it, and feel Hollow.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: shredder05
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 7:25pm

I'm sorry to hear that. I hear about so many relationships that break up around the 3 month point or so (and have experienced it myself). My theory is that the initial rush of infatuation starts to end then, and the "reality" sets in (that a relationship is fun and great and all, but it also involves work and obligations).

It's going to take time to feel better. For now, focus on not having any contact with him...breaking the habit is really tough at first but you will feel better eventually, if you don't talk to him.

Do you have friends and family you can talk to? And of course we are here!

Sheri

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Registered: 04-12-2006
In reply to: shredder05
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 9:08am

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and reply to me. And your right, I think he realized he was getting "involved" and just didn't have the time to. I know all this in my head, i'm just battling it out with my heart.
I've spoken to friends and family, and I'm afraid the topic is getting old. It's sooooo nice to have an outside perspective and opinion on the whole thing.

Most Sincerely

ps. Have a Happy Easter/Holiday