Dumped after 4 years-Very angry
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Dumped after 4 years-Very angry
| Fri, 11-02-2007 - 10:03am |
Hi-
I had been "dating" someone for 4 years. He broke up w/me 2 weeks ago. I am so angry with him and myself. Oh, this person even had purchased an engagement ring over 2 years ago. He states he loves me, but in the end, we should not be together. He also stated he had wanted to break up w/ me for

I hope you don’t' take this the wrong way, but as much as it hurts, it sounds like you dodged a HUGE bullet! It sounds like he doesn’t have much of a mind of his own, and unless he needs to be there for his mom because of medical reasons, he sounds way too attached to her at his age.
so sad to hear your story!
sorry to say, your guy probably will never change and you would be miserable.
i know you're hurting something crazy (can't even imagine), but based on my family's experience, consider it a blessing.
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Edited 11/4/2007 3:19 am ET by devuchka
Ditto on that. It hurts, it sucks, but it's true you maybe have done yourself a huge favour in the long run. I watched my dad choose his Jerk of a mother over my mom. Disgusting man.
To take a guess, he probably led you on for 18 months because he really DID want to marry you...but only because his mum wanted him to get a wife. And when you didn't bend to the will of mommy, he let you go.
Hugs
Welcome to the board charmed318,
Everything you feel is normal.