Dumped after 4 years-Very angry

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Dumped after 4 years-Very angry
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Fri, 11-02-2007 - 10:03am

Hi-


I had been "dating" someone for 4 years. He broke up w/me 2 weeks ago. I am so angry with him and myself. Oh, this person even had purchased an engagement ring over 2 years ago. He states he loves me, but in the end, we should not be together. He also stated he had wanted to break up w/ me for

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 3:05pm

I hope you don’t' take this the wrong way, but as much as it hurts, it sounds like you dodged a HUGE bullet! It sounds like he doesn’t have much of a mind of his own, and unless he needs to be there for his mom because of medical reasons, he sounds way too attached to her at his age.

 

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Registered: 09-30-2006
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 3:40pm

so sad to hear your story!

sorry to say, your guy probably will never change and you would be miserable.

i know you're hurting something crazy (can't even imagine), but based on my family's experience, consider it a blessing.

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Edited 11/4/2007 3:19 am ET by devuchka

 

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Sat, 11-03-2007 - 1:25am

Ditto on that. It hurts, it sucks, but it's true you maybe have done yourself a huge favour in the long run. I watched my dad choose his Jerk of a mother over my mom. Disgusting man.

To take a guess, he probably led you on for 18 months because he really DID want to marry you...but only because his mum wanted him to get a wife. And when you didn't bend to the will of mommy, he let you go.

Hugs

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 11-04-2007 - 12:39am

Welcome to the board charmed318,


Everything you feel is normal.