EBook how to get ex back?

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Registered: 02-22-2007
EBook how to get ex back?
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Fri, 02-23-2007 - 10:15am

Has anyone read or tried the book "How to Get Back Your Ex" by Brian Caniglia (dont worry, I will not ask for a free copy), and if so did it work? Normally, I would view this type of book as a scam, but I read a posting from a person on breakupsurvivor.com that it worked.

Right now I am hurting so much - and I feel like it would make me feel better to make my ex want me back and realize what a mistake he made.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 11:50am
Hi waterworks, I haven't read that one.
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Registered: 07-10-2005
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 12:03pm

I'm not sure if it is the same author, but I accessed this site a while back with the same concept. Basically, it stated that you need to pretend that you don't want them back and be happy and move on. That's what makes them want you back. I tried it and it worked, but I should of stayed away, because I'm in the same situation with the same guy and nothing has changed, one year later I broke up with him again.

I still love him, miss him like mad and want to call/text him every minute of every day (it's only been 5 days since we broke up). But I won't, because if I do, in another year, we'll be at the same place.

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Registered: 02-19-2007
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 2:03pm

If such a book is out there, please let me know. Since begging, pleading and crying didn't work, maybe something else does. My ex dumped me for another woman 2 weeks ago, and I am still hurt and crying over him. (I'm 52, I should be old enough to get over it).

Everyone says time will help, but I'm so miserable right now I can't eat or sleep.

I also wonder at my age if there is anything left out there for me. We were together for 6 years, and I was totally blindsided by his actions. He was the one person I totally trusted.

If you give it time, you may not want him back. Let me know

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 4:42pm

OK, I did purchase the book. I don't think it is anything earth-shattering. Its basically about not chasing your ex/steps to self-improvement e-book. It does NOT guarantee it will work, in fact there are several places in it where it says "if X happens after you do Y, then take it as a sign to move on." On the positive end it is very common sense, and has little bits of to help heal and keep you busy, with the point being that whether you get back with your ex or not, you will be in a better place. On the negative end, it scares me that it could give me (me personally, I mean) hope when there might not be any; in that case, I should be dealing with moving on rather than focusing on try to get the person back.

As for your Rose, I am very sorry this happened to you. Six years is a long time. I hope you post your story on this board, because I did a few days ago and there is so much support here, its wonderful. Just know that you are not alone, and you don't have to suffer alone. I too hope time will help. As for your age, I have a story, b/c it shows it is never too late. My grandmother (after losing my Grandpa when she was in her 60s) met the LOVE OF HER LIFE when she was 80 (she married him on Valentines Day that year). They were as happy as a pair of 20 year olds! I wish you all the best.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:06am

Ok, I haven't read that one, but I have read another one that's probably very similar, because they (the get your ex back tips) all are.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:18am
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? This is a question we must all ask ourselves. We're hurting and when we're hurting we look to find a band-aid. Having that person back in our lives seems like the solution but it's not. In many cases we didn't do anything, they drove us away, they sabotaged the relationship and tried to cover up their own commitment fears by making it appear that we were the problem. If you want to read a book that will help you understand your situation better, check out Steven Carter's He's Scared, She's Scared. That may put you on the road to personal healing.
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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 12:10pm
I agree. While sometimes people break up and make up, I think it's best to think, okay well he broke up with me, time to move on. If he didn't want things to end, we'd still be together. It takes two people to make a relationship work. I highly recommend reading "He's Just Not That Into You". Girls, he's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you! This book is great. There are no hidden messages or mixed messages. If a guy loves you and wants to be with you, he will do whatever it takes to make it work. If not, then forget him! He was obviously not the person you thought he was. I say, salvage the pride you have left, and do what it takes to move on. If he's not smart enough to realize you were the best thing that ever happened to him, then he's just not worth it.