Email Break-up

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Registered: 06-14-2007
Email Break-up
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 3:44pm

A week ago last Monday, My boyfriend of 6 months dumped me on an email. That is a horrible way to end a relationship by the way. We had been having a few issues/misunderstandings, he has anxiety/panic issues. He could never handle ANY conflict. When we would have a conflict he would just completely SHUT DOWN. In the email he said that "our relatioship was causing him to much anxiety and discomfort, so he was walking away from the relationship" It's just really hard because we were going to move in together and were planning our lives together. It's hard for me to focus on anything but him and what went wrong between us because I love him sooo much.

My mom said that he needs to get MAJOR therapy for his anxiety. I mean he would get really anxious and then very depressed if anything ever happened between us (spats etc.) It's just really hard not to blame myself and he won't even respond to my emails etc. that I sent to him after he sent me the email dumping me. Maybe it's for the best. I just hope he gets the help he needs and I believe I need some therapy too. I just needed to vent a little. Thanks for listening.

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Registered: 04-02-2007
In reply to: jenn_m31
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 4:08pm
Hi Jenn,
Been there, had it happen. It does suck. You are not responsible for what he does. It is not your fault, the way he did it is cowardly and it is all on him. Your mom is right he probably does need help. Just concentrate on you and know that you deserve better than that. Don't email him anymore, delete his email address, take his # out of your phone.
Just concentrate on yourself. It takes time, but it does get better.
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Registered: 08-26-2006
In reply to: jenn_m31
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 11:26pm
I'm sorry to hear that happened to you! I just got broken up with in an email as well- what is WRONG with these people??? Mine was totally out of the blue. It made me feel better to watch the Sex in the City epispode where Carrie gets dumped with a Post-it note....very funny- I highly recommend watching it. Hang in there!
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Registered: 06-14-2007
In reply to: jenn_m31
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 9:09am
I have already watched that "Sex and the City" episode from the advice of a friend. It really did help alot. I think breaking up in an email is cowardly and just plain wrong. Thanks for the advice.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
In reply to: jenn_m31
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 11:23am
I think the nature of the world now is that there are so many ways to stay connected and yet distant from people that e-mail is the way people are going to be doing everything. I got broken up with over text messaging. Mostly it was because he just couldn't physically tell me over the phone it was over, it hurt us both too much to say it and hear it. The next day he called me and we talked properly. Don't get down about the way it happened thats just incidental at this point.