EMotional rollercoaster

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2011
EMotional rollercoaster
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Fri, 08-12-2011 - 5:40pm

Hi all,

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2011
Fri, 08-12-2011 - 11:38pm
"He didn't know if he wanted to be in a relationship anymore. He wanted the summer to do things for himself ..."

Dudethink translated: Babe, a dude has to do what a dude has to do... If I need some, I'll call..."

Sorry, just sayin' it as it is...

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2011
Sat, 08-13-2011 - 8:16pm

He hasnt hooked up with anyone though. He just wanted to hang out with his friends all summer... thats why I am confused. He hasnt hooked up with anyone, it been me on the end of the phone every night...

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 9:46am

With your consent, he has downgraded your relationship to "casual" where he still gets the benefits of being in a relationship without any expectations on him at all, and he doesn't have to go through the pain of a REAL (read: no-contact) breakup. How ideal for him. This is exactly what he wanted, isn't it?

This can go on as long as you allow it, but it's not making you happy. You can either prolong it until he finally moves on, or you can move on yourself and tell him that if he's not in this relationship anymore then you need to sever contact so you can heal.