Emotionally dependency

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Registered: 05-12-2007
Emotionally dependency
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Sun, 05-13-2007 - 10:33pm
I need advice. I've realized recently that I was completely emotionally Dependant on my ex. That's why it's so hard for me to let him go and do not talk to him. When we were together, all the time I would feel bad or sad or I had any problems, I would call him or go to his place and I would find my comfort. Now I can't do that and I am left with my issue alone. How can I get rid of this dependency. I do not want to depend on anybody and be a able to comfort myself and find my own comfort. Now I feel that I might get too annoying and needy with my friends, I dont' want that happen. Any suggestions?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 11:58pm

makaronina...

Pianoguy thinks that the only way you can get over being dependent about anything (OR ANYBODY)...is to "rewrite the rules inside your head!"

Getting past the day-to-day habits and experiences with an EX can often take longer for some people than for others. But staying 'locked in the past'---especially when it's HISTORY...isn't healthy!

I'll bet if you gave yourself have a chance and assumed some of the responsibilities that you counted on your EX for...you'd eventually find happiness and peace of mind?

WHY?

Because you're calling the shots 100% and you don't have to look to or ask for someone else's permission to accomplish a task or make a decision.

And for some "new single people"---this option gets easier 'as time goes by!'

GOOD LUCK!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-14-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 1:21am
How do you rewrite the rules in your head? What should you do for that?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 6:40am

maka2007..

PG's quick answer....because he has an assignment this morning:

"You rewrite the rules by discarding the past...and reprogram yourself for the future!"

Pianoguy