ended it for good it seems

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Registered: 12-09-2007
ended it for good it seems
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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 1:12pm

i was posting on life after betrayal. my bf cheated on me when we first got together, but thats not why i was posting, its because time after time i would catch him in a lie. i wanted to know how to regain my trust for him since we just got back togehter from a month break and i wanted things to be better. but i know that he can lie to my face, and its hard knowing if he still is or not, we've been together for over a year and a half.


he came over last night, and went to get a drink, he left his phone by the bed and i looked through it. the girl i asked him not to see had sent him a couple texts. when he came back i asked him if he had been honest with me, made sure he said yes, that he doesnt talk to her and she doesnt text. which i knew wasnt totally true. we also talked about how hes moving in with his friends in april, and that he doesnt like when i hang out with him and his friends, so i would have to only hang out with him in his room or if we go out (which he hates doing) so id be like a sercret almost. he says he isnt ashamed of me just that it doesnt work when im with his friends.


i admitted to looking through his phone (after i asked if

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Sun, 03-23-2008 - 3:52pm

Why he's calling isn't really important.

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Sun, 03-23-2008 - 3:57pm

youre right. im not going to pick up cause its the best for me. its not like he called to say i miss you, he called to see how i was. until i hear in a voicemail, lets talk i want to work this out, theres no guarantee what hes calling for. and im not in a place anyways to get back together with him not now and maybe not ever.


thanks for saying that. i have to stop doing things because or for him finally. im not picking up because hes not what i want or need right now.

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 10:31am
I read all your posts and I am so sorry you are going through this.
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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 10:40am

i know what you mean. he even told me how great i am, just that he's not ready for a relationship or whatever. i still really love him, i don't want to get back together but i don't want what you were saying, to be open for someone else to come along, same with him. i really feel like we were meant for eachother, even if that sounds stupid, but i know he would keep hurting me if we were still together, cause he's too selfish at this point. but i really do want him, and still very much love him. i know i should get over him, but i dont' want to right now. i keep going through moments of anger one second and then crying the next. i just want him to feel the same, i hope he will...


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Registered: 12-09-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 4:38pm

temporary lapse in judgement




Edited 3/24/2008 9:18 pm ET by stepheb

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