I totally know what you mean--we all get to a point where we want a fast forward button to get to the other side of the pain and just be OVER it already!
I understand entirely how you feel too. I don't know about you, but the first two weeks after I ended things with my boyfriend, it was a relief to be free. I was running on adrenaline, I was so happy. The third and fourth week (and we just began no contact for at least a few months last night) have been much harder. I get so sad thinking about all the good times we had together (even though there was so much bad mixed in). I purposely wear mascara to work so I can't start crying because I know I will. I do want a fast forward button too.
At this point, I think it's mostly the relationship that we miss, and not so much the person themselves. I have to say, I really like being in relationships - I love the affection, the friendship, the closeness, the intimacy. My boyfriend was all that, even though he wasn't the one for me. Part of me cannot wait until I'm in another one, a better one, but I know I need to find myself first and tell myself - better yet PROVE to myself that I can live without a man.
My only suggestion to you is to keep seeing a counsellor. Counselling/psychology/psychiatry is proven to work just as well as depression meds, so stick with it for as long as you need it. I am sorry you feel so upset right now, but think of it this way - you have hit rock bottom, you can't go further down. Now you have to get back up, and believe me, I know from experience that it's hard, but YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. Maybe think towards what you want in a future relationship with a man, strive for that. Or think about another type of relationship. Possibly when your mental state becomes stronger, maybe adopt a child. I know that sounds a little extreme, but I already have made up my mind that if I am not married by my early 30s, I want to adopt a kid and raise her/him on my own. Yeah, sounds crazy, but I'd rather have that than be married and have no kids!!
hmmmm, i see that this guy really meant a lot to you - what a prick! ..but please don't be so sad.. i know it's easy to say that, but try to be motivated, try to go out and enjoy yourself, i'm sure you've friends who will be more than happy to help you out - do you?! what do they say about all this?
i must say similar thing happened to me years'n'years ago and it took me a couple of years to get over the bloke completely; having a lot of sex with 'no strings' attached will help too, but make sure you don't go overboard
also please don't give him another chance, leopards don't change their spots, lots of my friends allowed this to happen and it never ever work - so don't be tempted
on a depression side counseling will help or shearing problems with your friends and I think by writing this message you are more than ready to move on and seek help. forget about pills at the moment, but if you still feel like this in a few months time go and speak to your doc
WOW, It's almost like reading about my own situation. Except my ex's drug of choice was weed. I can't tell you how many times I have cut the cord with this guy and I do not initiate any contact with him. Then he calls or texts me saying he can't stop thinking about me and he misses and loves me so much but then, JUST LIKE YOUR EX, doesn't absolutely nothing about or make the effort to make it work. And being the fool
I totally know what you mean--we all get to a point where we want a fast forward button to get to the other side of the pain and just be OVER it already!
But there is no fast forward button.
Welcome to the board sadandstuck,
Sheri gave you good advice.
I understand entirely how you feel too. I don't know about you, but the first two weeks after I ended things with my boyfriend, it was a relief to be free. I was running on adrenaline, I was so happy. The third and fourth week (and we just began no contact for at least a few months last night) have been much harder. I get so sad thinking about all the good times we had together (even though there was so much bad mixed in). I purposely wear mascara to work so I can't start crying because I know I will. I do want a fast forward button too.
At this point, I think it's mostly the relationship that we miss, and not so much the person themselves. I have to say, I really like being in relationships - I love the affection, the friendship, the closeness, the intimacy. My boyfriend was all that, even though he wasn't the one for me. Part of me cannot wait until I'm in another one, a better one, but I know I need to find myself first and tell myself - better yet PROVE to myself that I can live without a man.
My only suggestion to you is to keep seeing a counsellor. Counselling/psychology/psychiatry is proven to work just as well as depression meds, so stick with it for as long as you need it. I am sorry you feel so upset right now, but think of it this way - you have hit rock bottom, you can't go further down. Now you have to get back up, and believe me, I know from experience that it's hard, but YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. Maybe think towards what you want in a future relationship with a man, strive for that. Or think about another type of relationship. Possibly when your mental state becomes stronger, maybe adopt a child. I know that sounds a little extreme, but I already have made up my mind that if I am not married by my early 30s, I want to adopt a kid and raise her/him on my own. Yeah, sounds crazy, but I'd rather have that than be married and have no kids!!
i so much feel your pain!
I read the message above and I'm in
hi babe..
hmmmm, i see that this guy really meant a lot to you - what a prick! ..but please don't be so sad.. i know it's easy to say that, but try to be motivated, try to go out and enjoy yourself, i'm sure you've friends who will be more than happy to help you out - do you?! what do they say about all this?
i must say similar thing happened to me years'n'years ago and it took me a couple of years to get over the bloke completely; having a lot of sex with 'no strings' attached will help too, but make sure you don't go overboard
also please don't give him another chance, leopards don't change their spots, lots of my friends allowed this to happen and it never ever work - so don't be tempted
on a depression side counseling will help or shearing problems with your friends and I think by writing this message you are more than ready to move on and seek help. forget about pills at the moment, but if you still feel like this in a few months time go and speak to your doc
please let us posted on your developments'
best wishes
belladonna
WOW, It's almost like reading about my own situation. Except my ex's drug of choice was weed. I can't tell you how many times I have cut the cord with this guy and I do not initiate any contact with him. Then he calls or texts me saying he can't stop thinking about me and he misses and loves me so much but then, JUST LIKE YOUR EX, doesn't absolutely nothing about or make the effort to make it work. And being the fool