Oh girl - I'm so sorry to hear this. I was not living with or engaged to my man, but I can share the same myspace situation. Within an hour up breaking up (over the phone, nice) and having an hour-long cryfest (him as well, admitting he has issues he needs to work on and can't be in a relationship right now) he already had changed his status on his page and within 4 days later had a "new female friend" on there - and even sent her a comment!!! Don't these guys know there business is out there for the world (us exes) to see?!?! Are they sending a message, or are they just idiots? WTF is right. My tears aren't even dry and he is making new friends - a quick fix to help their own pain I presume. They can't have a serious relationship with you - but they sure can still go out and get some ass to make themselves feel better. NICE.
Absolutely terrible. For your own sanity, do whatever you need to do, but don't keep visiting his Myspace page. It'll only bring you down. Where do these people get off hurting others??
They are emotional unavailable men who run from a good thing. True intimacy is scary to them. I thought I learned my lesson dealing with someone like this before, but sometimes you cannot see the red flags until after it's all over. "Men Who Can't Love" is an excellent book to read to understand this kind of behavior; I highly recommend it. I'm glad we can all help each other on these boards!
p.s. - I just went on myspace and deleted him from my friends page, as well as yahoo messenger. No more torture! :)
I totally understand your rage. I am in a similar situation. He broke up with me after a relationship of 7 years. 7 years whereby I uprooted and move to his country. Didn't matter to him anymore. Said he missed a 'certain feeling' in our relationship. Apparently he met some woman a few months before, and though he didn't sleep with her, they kept in contact all these while. I had no idea that she existed. He said since they were just friends, he felt he didn't have to tell me about her. Anyway, 3 days after our breakup, he called her for coffee, and another 3 days later, she spent the night at his place. Spent the bloody night in a bed we used to share. I was so bloody pissed off. I still can't get over what he did, and I'm really really angry. He kept saying that he didn't break up with me in order to date her, and he even said that he didn't feel that he was being dishonest with me despite the fact that he didn't tell me about her. He does not feel any remorse or pain at the moment. I told him that I hope that he will regret this decision, and that he'll regret this for the rest of his life. Because I want him to feel the pain that i'm feeling. Am I being spiteful? I really don't care at this point. Friends say he's not worth it, but to me, I always believed that he was THE one for me. How wrong can a girl be....but He's really not worth it. We deserve better...
They are emotional unavailable men who run from a good thing. True intimacy is scary to them. I thought I learned my lesson dealing with someone like this before, but sometimes you cannot see the red flags until after it's all over. "Men Who Can't Love" is an excellent book to read to understand this kind of behavior; I highly recommend it. I'm glad we can all help each other on these boards!
p.s. - I just went on myspace and deleted him from my friends page, as well as yahoo messenger. No more torture! :)
I totally understand your rage. I am in a similar situation. He broke up with me after a relationship of 7 years. 7 years whereby I uprooted and move to his country. Didn't matter to him anymore. Said he missed a 'certain feeling' in our relationship. Apparently he met some woman a few months before, and though he didn't sleep with her, they kept in contact all these while. I had no idea that she existed. He said since they were just friends, he felt he didn't have to tell me about her. Anyway, 3 days after our breakup, he called her for coffee, and another 3 days later, she spent the night at his place. Spent the bloody night in a bed we used to share. I was so bloody pissed off. I still can't get over what he did, and I'm really really angry. He kept saying that he didn't break up with me in order to date her, and he even said that he didn't feel that he was being dishonest with me despite the fact that he didn't tell me about her. He does not feel any remorse or pain at the moment. I told him that I hope that he will regret this decision, and that he'll regret this for the rest of his life. Because I want him to feel the pain that i'm feeling. Am I being spiteful? I really don't care at this point. Friends say he's not worth it, but to me, I always believed that he was THE one for me. How wrong can a girl be....but He's really not worth it. We deserve better...