ex bf is still hung up
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ex bf is still hung up
| Tue, 04-18-2006 - 12:20pm |
Okay I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months about a week ago as most of you know. It took me a while to finally realize we can't be friends because he is still in love with me, but I don't feel it back. So I have cut him off completely so he doesn't get false hope. But he just won't let it go and keeps texting me, he sent me text messages all weekend and tried to call me, but I ignored them which I am proud of because that way I'm not giving him hope. Well he called me yesterday morning at work, which has no caller ID and I have to answer of course, and he just asked why I was ignoring him and I told him because we can't be friends and can't talk. He just won't let it go, he thinks we can still be friends, but it won't work that way. I really want him to move on. His last text said 'can we text please', I want to say no, but I know that he already knows that and he just wants me to send him something. So I am just ignoring it. So what do I do? He knows I don't want any contact, but yet he still tries. Will it eventually just stop? I mean we broke up very recently so I am sure this is normal and he is just really sad...Do I just wait until it goes away, how long do I wait before I say something to him? I mean I have already told that 'no, we can't be friends, and i don't want any contact' Sorry but I am just new to all this relationship stuff!! advice please...

Carrie
I really hope it doesn't come to having to get a restraining order - but I really think you're doing the right thing by completely ignoring the text messages. My ex also loved to text message me- in fact, I got one last night. It didn't even say Happy Easter, which is about the only thing that might have been appropriate. But I digress...
If you answer him back, he is getting attention from you, even if its negative attention, its still valuable to him. So definitely keep ignoring him. And obviously its hard at work since you have to answer your phone, but the minute you hear his voice I would say "Have a good day" or something professional sounding and hang up. He will get tired of it eventually. I am so sorry that you have to go through this though- I know it's really painful for you too!! Hopefully he gives up sooner rather than later. But unless you really feel harrassed, I would stick it out a bit with ignoring him and see how that goes.
GOod luck, and let us know how its going.