Ex boyfriend left after 5 months and how it was done was wrong! HELP!

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Registered: 06-27-2011
Ex boyfriend left after 5 months and how it was done was wrong! HELP!
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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 1:08pm

I experienced something this past weekend that was to date, one of my worst breakups ever.... I decided since it was our anniversary weekend, I would try to go all out. Satin sheets, dressed provocatively at the door when he came in from work. Everything seemed to be going well with us BUT there seems to be a problem from day one on his behalf. He couldn't seem to ejaculate out of the few times we'd have sex. The first time we got together, he said he almost was there (orgasm). I noticed he would have to restart and then

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Registered: 10-03-2007
At 5 months you dont celebrate an anniversary. An anniversary is after completion of a year, comes annualy.

You guys are incompatible. A break up is a break up --- no nice ,right , good or wrong way to do it.
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Registered: 06-27-2011

Yes, I know you celebrate an anniversary after 1 year.. I get that. It was our little thing that we did each month. No, I guess there really was no right way to do it especially if that person wasn't on the receiving end and there are people who don't think...especially if it isn't happening to them at the time!

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Registered: 05-20-2009

I wasn't aware that there was a RIGHT way to end a relationship, whether it's 5 weeks, 5 months or 5 years!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007

I know the timing was bad, but if you're celebrating an anniversary monthly, it's kind of hard to find a good time.

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Registered: 06-27-2011

I do believe there is a right and wrong way to do things. Why should I have had to ask what's wrong and play as though there was no issue? If I hadn't asked, I don't think he was going to say anything. Five months and it takes someone that long to realize there is no physical attraction or

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Registered: 06-27-2011

I plan to get back out here eventually (no time soon, however. There were just too many warning signs and issues from the beginning on his behalf. People normally leave their baggage at the door or in the past but this wasn't the case at all. I don't plan to waste much time on what happened. No amount of trying to work on whatever was going to change what was going on with him. I do question why it took 5 months to realize whether