Ex comes back and you fall in his trap
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Ex comes back and you fall in his trap
| Thu, 07-20-2006 - 11:41am |
Me and my boyfriend has been broken up for a few months now. He cheated on me, and when I confronted, at first he acted like he was lost, then he acted like I was talkin to someone else sayin things like" Who me?" Then when I finally got him to confess he tells me that he still wants to be with the both of us. I drop him right then and there. But like a week later I find myself calling him, and next thing I know we are messing around. But the bad thing is we never got back together. It's just that I know in my heart that I am still in love with him. But I hate to love him. HELP! how do I learn to move on? I can't do this anymore.

it will be hard for a while, but i have to agree with the other post, no contact is the best thing you can do for yourself. it will be very hard on some days but it will be worth it because you will eventually start feeling good again. you don't deserve to be treated the way your ex treated you, and you should be proud of yourself for realizing it and deciding not to take it from him. best of luck to you.
My advice is the no contact as well. Have you seen him since your last 'messing around'? Is this just the lingering feelings you're describing? Like the others' said, your feelings don't just shut themselves off even if something bad (like cheating) occurs. So don't beat yourself up over that - that just means you're human.
My ex also cheated on me and I read a lot, got a lot of advice and I'd have to say "living well is your best revenge". Take care of you, be SELFISH since he was! Keep yourself so busy during the days that you're too exhausted at night to overanalyze life without him. I try to remind myself that my ex sabotaged the relationship by cheating and wanted it to end anyway if he was willing to take a chance with sneaking behind my back and lying when confronted. You don't need a guy like that... ack. Let them carry their garbage into the next relationship.