Ex leaves town 2 mo after breakup....

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Registered: 12-22-2004
Ex leaves town 2 mo after breakup....
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Thu, 01-06-2005 - 1:27pm
So my ex and I broke up around Halloween and we spent 3.5 years together. I recently discovered that he moved about 10 hours away and don't know what to make of it. Out of the blue, just gone. He moved to a location where we had discussed living, yet he couldn't make it happen when we were a couple. Now, only 2 months later, he has up and moved. What is the deal?
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 11:21am
So? What's it to you? You broke up remember, it's not your concern anymore. It hurts, and I'm really not trying to be mean, but you'd do well to think the same.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 3:10pm

Same thing happened to me. I broke up with my ex Sept. 20 and I realized he moved after Thanksgiving when I noticed his apartment empty (we lived across the street from each other). Although I wanted him to move because we kept running into each other in traffic (we also took the same route to work and work only 3 miles away), I was hurt to see him gone. We were together 8 years.

I'm fine now. Actually happy about it as it was like having a dark cloud across the street and I realize that was the last thing I needed to really heal. I don't think he's far, I saw him in traffic only days after that, but for me, it was just the last step in letting go.

You are not alone. Try to look at it as something that was going to happen sooner or later.

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Registered: 12-31-2004
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 6:12pm

you write: "I recently discovered that he moved about 10 hours away and don't know what to make of it."

well, that's one way of making sure you two don't run into each other.

"Out of the blue, just gone. He moved to a location where we had discussed living, yet he couldn't make it happen when we were a couple. Now, only 2 months later, he has up and moved. What is the deal?"

Uh, he made it happen without the distraction and drama of a dying relationship? And why do you care? It's over. Move on... he has.