Ex moving on

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Ex moving on
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Wed, 10-25-2006 - 12:37pm

Hi,

I broke up with my ex about 2 years ago due to him sleeping with a friend of mine. However i found it in my heart to forgive him and for the last 2 years our realationship has been on and off. Now he has found a new girl and we have decided to just be friends, however this girl is the ex girlfriend of an ex boyfriend of mine who i went went out with after breaking up from my ex (which my ex was not very happy about). I believe i am over him as i am happy for him as i hoped he would be happy for me. The only problem i face now is being friends with this guy, it would be difficult not to be as we share alot of the friends.

For the last few days i have been accused by my ex of trying to find out everything about her when i only asked one person what she was like. They both think i still have feelings for him which i don't well not in the way they think anyway. He has told me if i want to be friends with him i cannot do such things, i honestly only asked a friend of hers and mine what she was like as i have heard many bad things off people about her and wanted to know what she was really like.

Just posting this to see if anyone has gone through anything like this and could give me there advice?

thank you

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Registered: 02-28-2006
In reply to: kayley04
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 2:17pm

yap i could feel you..ofcourse everyone had been there...i was... actually up to now with my first love....imagine its been 8yrs since we broke up gosh ha?? LOL but i'm doing that not bcuz i still love him...I'M JUST BEING CURIOUS...

believe me he was also and his wife...mostly his wife does...she always want to get some info about me....she even searching for me over the internet...IMAGINE THAT? PSYCHO...so when they saw my profile....i guess she ask my exbf to add me on his friend list...he did but i ignore it....coz waste of time...

well i know being so snoppy sometimes is being annoying....(well as long that they dont know is oky right?...LOL)

as a friendly advised play around with him tell....SO WHAT IF I ASK...I'M JUST CURIOUS WHO YOU REPLACE ME AND I JUST DONT WANT YOU TO CHOICE SOMEONE THAT IS NOT EVEN COMPARIBLE TO ME...AND START LAUGHING...GOOD LUCK

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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: kayley04
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 6:09pm
Here's the thing - him accusing you is just HIS perception. My advice, don't bite into it, don't defend yourself, don't justify what you do or don't do with him. It's really none of his business. In other words, let him believe what he wants.


Carrie

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Registered: 10-25-2006
In reply to: kayley04
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 7:24am

hey guys,

Thanks for your advice guys. I am just going to ignore it now and just get on with things, maybe he ego will shrink also if i do lol.