the ex is scarying me
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| Sun, 12-25-2005 - 2:02am |
I broke down and emailed the BF tonight. I couldnt help, its Xmas eve and i was sad and tipsy. We broke up last week. After two (rocky) years, he said that he wasnt sure he wanted get married and have kids. This was an issue of ours since the beginning, so I had enough and end called it quits. So tonight i asked him in my email the burning question, did he just not want to get married generally or did he just not want to get married to me? His answer was "somewhere in the middle", explaining that he just never has the "fairy tale" love for me. This hurts of of course, but I believe that the more truth the better. I know that he's not the one.
My main concern is how he ended his letter. He says that he feels so guilty and is so sad that he couldnt love me enough that he's having suicidal feelings. He said, "I wish I could just tell everyone that I love them with all my heart, then blow my head off", among other disturbing statements. But he finished with saying he would never actually go through with it. I dont know what to do. Part of me thinks that because he is so self absorbed he's trying to get pity from me. But the on the other hand I'm extremely worried.

YOU MUST TELL SOMEONE about this letter..his family is best..whilst we are not sure of his intentions you cannot take any risk. Having this information puts a lot of stress on you for sure and since you cannot be responsible for his actions you DO need to tell someone who can watch him..it is NOT your job.
I am a therapist and often had to do this...
He may get mad and call you and ask why you told but it's better that he is mad and he is ALIVE.
Do not wait ONE MINUTE.