Ex still on his mind
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| Sun, 04-09-2006 - 9:17am |
A few weeks ago I had my first date with a great guy, and it was great. We really got along, have a lot in common and he's very open and honest about everything. There was simply nothing more I could wish for.
Untill last night he tells me he's confused, because his ex-girlfriend is still on his mind sometimes. And he's frustrated because he doesn't want to get back together with her and I'm way better than her, and he likes every little thing about me, but just can't put her out of his head. And that he felt it was holding him back in our relationship and I deserve him giving himself 100% percent and no less. And he doesn't want to hurt me, and is afraid that if things go wrong it might ruin the training I'm doing at work to get my first job.
I think that everytime 2 people break up there's a good reason for it, and that they should keep that in mind. But I'm having trouble with that right now, because there was nothing wrong, everything felt great, we were great and we both feel the same way. And I can appreciate him telling me, and I know that doesn't want to risk hurting me.
We don't know eachother very well yet, but I know how I feel about him, and what frustrates me most is that I know that he feels the same way. There's so many things we haven't even had the chance to do together. And I know I should move on, but I just don't want to...
I know he has to figure this out for himself first and I'm okay with giving him some time. And I don't want to bug him or keep hanging on to something that might never happen. But I just can't bear the thought that we can't be together for a reason I can't control and doesn't have anything to do with 'us' as a couple.
He told me he wouldn't keep on calling me himself, but that I could txt or call him anytime and for anything. I just don't know whether I should keep contact, or will that make him keep his distance, but I don't want to move on, lose touch and maybe miss out on something great.
Any advice/people who've been through the same thing is welcome.
Thx
Edited 4/9/2006 9:49 am ET by shedevil788
| Sun, 04-09-2006 - 11:00am |
| Mon, 04-10-2006 - 8:40pm |
