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Ex's Birthday next week
| Sat, 11-20-2004 - 4:47pm |
Hi everyone, just wondering if I could get some opinions. It's my ex's birthday next week and I'm not sure if I should send him an email or a text message or just not say anything at all. He broke up with me a year ago because he got scared, then came back this past summer. I did want to try things again, but this time I was confused and scared of getting hurt again, so I kind of screwed things up. To make a long story short, I was already dating another guy when my ex came back and it was an awful thing to do to both of them, but I didn't break up with the new guy until after I was already starting to see the ex again. Anyways, my ex found out a couple months later and basically stopped speaking to me. We had a little bit of communication over email in which I apologized and asked for another chance, and he said that he still loves me but is still too angry to speak to me. He keeps saying that he does want to be with me again, but isn't ready yet. So I've been leaving him alone... but I'm wondering, he says he doesn't want to talk to me yet so I want to give him his space, but if I don't acknowledge his birthday in any way, does it make it look like I don't care anymore and that I don't still want to be with him?

That's a tough one, some people think 'Not even a card, nothing, don't they care.' Other people, (when the get a card) think, 'Geez, why did getting their card make me hurt all over again, can't they just let me heal?'
In your situation, go with your gut feeling. If you feel like saying 'happy bday' then do it.
Carrie