Falling out to fall back in

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Registered: 05-13-2006
Falling out to fall back in
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Sat, 10-06-2007 - 5:23pm

I dont know if I'm in the right place, if I'm not, feel free to move me :)

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You can skip til the stars if you want!

The breakdown is:
- been together for 6 years
- steady for 2
- began to get unhealthy (we spent all our free time together, no one else was in our lives)
- split up

I lost myself. I dont know who I am anymore, and I'm seeing a counsellor to try and help me with my problems.

We decided to call it a day on thursday. After lots and lots of fighting, we began to be able to talk to eachother calmly and rationally, and we both feel that if we're going to be able to correct all the problems brought up, then we have to have a completely clear slate. Start back as strangers.

Theres alot I can't forgive him for, theres alot I can't forgive alot of people for, which I'm working on. I'm just wanting support really.

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Its killing me to fall out of love with someone who loves me just to fall in love all over again.
He called me about an hour ago. Says he couldn't stop thinking about me, that his life feels empty. Theres a void. I've spent my day feeling the same. I've lost my appetite (which is great for the diet!!)

I'm just heartbroken, and searching for support and answers.
Do you think I can forgive?
Has anyone been through something similar?
How could I speed up the forgiving process?
Anything?
Pleasw

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 9:57pm

Welcome to the board neonchibi,


Good to hear you are in counseling, it will help.


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