feel like I was dumped

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Registered: 11-27-2006
feel like I was dumped
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 8:04pm

I met this great guy, I really came to like him a lot. He seemed to feel the same way. He talked about hooking up and some type of future together. We saw each other for a few weeks and things were getting better every day. Then all hell broke loose for him. His ex found out he was seeing someone and began trying to get him back. They are not back together, I do know that. But, he's not with me either. He's trying to get his life back in order, and not drinking anymore. He called about a week ago and explained where he was and what he was doing. He said that he will call me, just didn't say when. He is a honest person and has been upfront with me about everything. I totally respect his wishes for some time. But, it still hurts so bad. I really thought we were going to have a relationship in the future. Now everythings on hold and I'm scared.

Okay, I need ideas on what to do so that things might work out when things calm down. I've been trying to leave him alone. I don't want to chase him away. But, is that the best thing to do? I'm hoping that when things calm down, he'll want to see me again. I don't want to bug him while he's trying so hard to get it together. But, on the other hand I don't want him to forget me either. I don't think he will, but that's my fear. Should I just leave him alone and maybe he'll call? Or should I call every couple of weeks to let him know I'm thinking about him? But, will he think I don't like him anymore or will he be greatful that I gave him his space that he needs so bad right now? I would really appreciate your ideas and insight on this. Thanks.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 10:58am

Ideas on what to do so that things might work out later on:


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Registered: 11-27-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 4:32pm
I agree with your ideas. The hard part is actually doing them. I am newly divorced and have been having self esteem problems. We really liked each other and got along well. It felt so good to feel good with someone. Its hard meeting nice guys, and this was a nice one. He has many of the characteristics that I like. I am not going to sit around and wait but I'm not going to go out actively looking for someone else either. I'm going to use this time to work on my own issues. If I do meet someone, that's great. If I don't, maybe some day soon we can try it again. I'm just not willing to totally give the idea up yet. We never were actually "hooked up" yet, even though we talked about the idea, so how can we be broken up? Nothing bad actually happened between us. One day everything was better than ever, then things got bad due to his ex.
If you have any more ideas, please let me know. I want to stay in touch with him but still give him the space he needs.