Feel super alone

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Feel super alone
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 12:41pm

I have not heard from the guy I'd been seeing for almost 2 weeks now. He freaked out at work when he got a needlestick from an

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 1:26pm

Welcome to the board hngrys7392,


It's not easy being in a new city, knowing very few people and not having a good support system close.


I'm sure he's freaking out and even though it's been two weeks, he may wait longer, say until after he gets test results and/or comes to terms with how his life may change if it turns out he's infected.


What you feel is normal... the grief of being shut out, not getting a response.

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Registered: 03-26-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 1:32pm

I'm sorry that your boyfriend's first inclination was to withdraw rather than to lean on you during this difficult time.

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Registered: 09-30-2006
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 1:38pm

hey you're not alone. it will be ok. i'm 38 & still single & i have some idea of your feeling of frustration.


how about you take yourself out & meet some new guys? i think this guy needs a run for his money...personally, i'd give him one. let him know that even though you moved there, you have a life of your own & if he snoozes he loses.


i know it's easier said than done (speaking from my very recent experience) but guys value more what they can't have or get.


take his "me" time to have some "you" time & then you'll be stronger, whatever happens.


hugz.


 

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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:02pm

Let's pull you out of the muck a bit, shall we?

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:21pm

Hi and thanks for your response.


Well, I wasn't at the point of calling him my "boyfriend", so no, we hadn't been together long at all. We've known each other since last spring but we weren't going out. I went away to another state for the summer then came back here about a month ago. So no, it was still very new.


I'm sure that he's terrified. I would be. I know that it's this. But I still can't help feeling sad. And it's hard when you don't have really anyone else in the city to lean on or spend time with, just really talking. Anyway was just venting. I'm not trying to sound selfish, but I do feel shut out, confused, and sad. Trying really hard to get over it, though.

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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:25pm
Thanks for your response. Yeah, I'm not anywhere near the point of wanting to meet other guys, though. The thought of doing that depresses me more. Haha! I'd rather just hang out with girlfriends.. I think I may do something this weekend with the new girl. Anyway I think that I just need a vacation from guys and just try taking these classes that I've been wanting to take (ie., yoga, etc). UGH. I just want to get out of this funk, though. And yeah, the older I get, I wonder if I'll ever be in a loving relationship with anyone again. I know that I will, but it seems like there have been soo many disappointments in the last several years.
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:32pm

You're right, and I know it, too. The city IS mine and what a great city that I'm in! I'm trying hard to take advantage of living here, just right now, I feel blahhh. I know I'll get over it, but this feeling SUCKS.


No, I was definitely not exaggerating-- it is fatal and horrible. And the prophylactic meds that you have to take in the meantime make you feel like sh**, as well. So I'm sure he's in hell right now, which totally sucks. It's a nurse's first inclination to take care of other people and that is impossible in this case, so it frustrates me a little, I guess.


But on top of all that, I just miss him.

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Registered: 03-26-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:34pm

Well, then the best thing to do is, like you said, get into your classes and hang out with your girlfriends.


I know what you mean about feeling like you're getting older and stuff. I've been with my BF for almost 2 1/2 years. We were together 24/7 for a year and a half of that time, then he had to move to Milwaukee (I'm east coast) because of some issues with work and now I have no idea when we can be together again. It sucks big time because everyone I know from high school, college, etc., are not only married but working on their second child. It's just frustrating because of this indefinate amount of waiting and hoping. It does get VERY old.


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Registered: 09-30-2006
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:37pm

you know i get that way every year or so, done with guys. as soon as i do, i meet another one i like & then it's off again to the races.


sadly, that wasn't a freudian slip. i don't know how to turn off the clock at 38 so it's a hard to work

 

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 7:04pm
Welcome to the board orlando07 and thanks for participating.