feel terrible. he sent me my toothbrush!

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feel terrible. he sent me my toothbrush!
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 7:14pm
I was in an LDR for eight months til he broke up w/ me a little over a month ago. I have been feeling pretty low still, questioning everything, not accepting it, feeling despair, even though it's been almost a month of NC. Today I come home to a 'package' in the mail from him. I was freaking out before I opened it. It was my (electric) toothbrush with a curt note that said 'sorry it took so long to send this, I hope you are well.' And then the kicker, SINCERELY. I am a literary person so perhaps I'm reading too much into this, but 'sincerely?' WTF is that? It's like, "I am going very much out of my way NOT to sign this note 'love,' so instead of just SIGNING the thing, I have to write 'Sincerely,' so you'll get the point." He might as well have said 'Cordially!' Or even better, 'Best!'
For some reason this little event has triggered so much in me. I thought I was doing okay, I've been going through the motions even though I basically feel terrible every day. And now ol' 'Sincerely' has gotten me freaking out all over again. Who is this guy? Does this mean that I was in love with a guy who I thought was much better than he actually was, or that guys who break up with you turn into TOTAL JERKS once they are done with you? I had such higher hopes...
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 7:55pm

Ugh, sorry you're having to deal with that. I remember getting a check from a LD ex who owed me money--he completely disappeared on me after we'd been together 18 months (no breakup, just disappeared) and I hadn't heard from him in 4 months, when I get a check folded into a BLANK piece of paper--no note! I was furious!!! The jerk couldn't even take a minute to say, "hope you're doing ok" or something like that??? No.

So I can relate. It'll pass in a few days but I know it's upsetting now. It just goes to show you how contact can really set you back.

Sheri

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 10:15pm

I would be completely remiss if I didn't point out that you're reading wayyyy too much into this, and working yourself up into a froth when it doesn't need to be like that. To encourage that in you would only be worse.

The guy sent you your electric toothbrush and was trying to be nice about it. He hopes you're well. Signing "Love," would be most inappropriate at this point, since you are broken up. Goodness chica, what exactly should he have done?

People are on this board all the time agonizing and agonizing over how exactly the "property exchange" is supposed to happen, there's no good way to do it. He tried and fell a little short, apparently, but at least he tried. Cut him some slack on this because when you do, it'll actually have the effect of making YOU feel better. If you don't believe me, try it and see.

Good luck,

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 10:23pm

Welcome to the board quietdomino7,


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