Feeling anxious

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Feeling anxious
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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 12:07am

I had to post today, because I'm stressing out about this 'relationship' and I have a ton of stress with school and work. I just need to get this off my mind.

For about a week now, I have felt like things aren't going to work out. He has been studying for finals and working hard on projects at work, and I've been basically doing the same. The thing is, he told me last week that he was going to be MIA for a while preparing for finals. This is only two weeks after a 'break' I agreed to to let him get some stuff done. I understand that he needs to focus, but I was hoping we would get to be together once this semester was over. He came over on Friday night, and it was just okay. That's fine too, since we were both pretty tired and everything. The thing is, I just got off the phone with him, and he was telling me all these things that are popping up after school is over. He is always so hesitant to make long term plans with me, i.e. go on a long weekend away, but he doesn't think twice about going away on a long weekend with his buddies. All I want is for him to go on a camping trip with me, but I am scared to ask because I don't want him to hem and haw about it. It hurts my feelings. I would really love it if once I asked him to do something and he said, "I'd love to!" He is like that when we get back together, and then he gets comfortable I guess. Is it too much to ask for a little enthusiasm? I know I'm speculating here, but I think I know him well enought to know that he's not going to be ecstatic.

Anyway, I just had to put that out there. I have been trying to be positive, but I think the stress is getting to me. I know there's no such thing as a naturally easy relationship, but I feel like I spend a lot of time hurting because he is so focused on everything else but me. I know this has to do with my own insecurities, too.

Sorry for the stream-of-thought rambling...

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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 12:44am
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Edited 5/8/2007 1:39 am ET by hazelnut25
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 4:33pm

Hi krismae,


It's hard to deny your gut feelings. Work on what you can, your own insecurities and good luck with your finals.