Feeling like a fool
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Feeling like a fool
| Fri, 05-20-2005 - 1:54pm |
I wouldn't say I am devastated but I've been dating someone for the past three months and i really thought he was THE ONE. Then all of the sudden, his profile appears back online (we met on match) and he says he doesn't know how it happened. Like a fool, I believe him. Then three days later, he tells me he put it back on there because his subscription is getting ready to expire and he wanted to see what else was "out there". Mind you, the day before that, I was still his girlfriend. I'm not having trouble with kicking him to the curb (I can put up with just about anything BUT lying), I'm having trouble with all the things I shared with him and how he just took all that and trashed it. Not to mention, he knew I had just come out of a bad relationship.

Geez, it seems he did a 180 on you or split personality raised by wolves. I don't know how someone can go from caring and into you, to "i'm single and will go out if someone asks me". Did he have kids? I wonder because I am a single mom too... and awhile back,there was this guy that I broke up with because we didn't mesh at all, and he said "good luck" to me as well, and said, "you'll regret this, not many guys are willing to take on a single mom" And I was thinking, how conceited!
It does throw us for a loop when we start to fall and they think they are god's gift to women, lol. I'm glad you explained more of the situation, sounds like you were just out there and you found a bad apple :(
Parting gifts? thats funny, guys are so weird. You stay strong! And don't let this get you too down, you and your little one deserve a lot more!
a big and a little hug!
Grace
I'm sorry for what you're going through. So many relationships seem to end at about the 3-6 month point, when the "real" person comes out. What I have started to do in self-defense is really stay skeptical until we've been dating for at least 4-6 months--for example, I keep telling myself, "yeah, he SEEMS great, but it's early on and time will tell".
Another lesson I've learned is that a guy who comes on really strong at the beginning is very, very likely to turn and run away just as suddenly. Many men seem to get caught up in the "fantasy" of a new, seemingly perfect r'ship, and don't exercise good judgment in keeping a slow, steady pace, and are REALLY irresponsible in getting carried away and saying things that I'm sure they mean at the time, but without regard for the fact that you think they REALLY mean them. It's up to YOU to be self-protective and "just say no" to a fast pace, and to take everything that is said in the first few months with a HUGE grain of salt.
Sheri