Feeling Great : )

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Registered: 07-31-2007
Feeling Great : )
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:30pm

So this message is for all of you that think you will never get through your break up and are still contacting their ex's. I am now on day 18 of no contact and it feels great. I have finally been able to look at the situation and say "if he doesnt want me then he is so not worth it." Yesterday I got a great job offer and I am going to take it. Seriously even though things might seem so horrible one minute, something will surprise you the next! Keep up the NO CONTACT!!! I promise it really does work. I don't even really care if he even wants me back anymore because I am at the point where I dont even think I would take him back. I am just starting to feel happy by myself and you guys should too.

Good luck everyone!

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Registered: 02-08-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:43pm

I'm SO happy for you!!!

I've been having these WEEEEAAAKK moments of just wanting to pick up the phone and call him, but I keep telling myself not to. Because I know it'll get better.

I'm so glad you have that feeling now. Thanks for your follow up! I've always wanted to see how one grows from a breakup into the feeling of not caring if you see him again, and I feel like you've shared that with us. :)

Congrats on your new job! Keep us posted!

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:03pm
Glad you're feeling better, congrats on the new job!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:16pm

Thanks for sharing.

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Registered: 07-31-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:24pm
Thanks Everyone
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Registered: 07-30-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 2:36pm
I'm on day 25 and although it's by far better than it was the first week I'm still desperatly missing him. I agree the NC does work but some days it's really hard. There is so much I want to say to him but I know it would get me nowhere. There is nothing I can say to bring him back. If he wanted to he would. I cant wait to wake up one morning and realize I wouldn't take him back. Good for you! I'm very happy for you!
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Registered: 02-08-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 2:46pm

I feel like that in order to seriously move on, Yes you should maintain NC for as long as you can, but definitely follow those "Steps To Get Over a Breakup" that was mentioned in a post.

Write letters, and also read those books that help put your relationship into perspective. For example, I think I'm going to buy "He's Just Not That Into You" and "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken." I've been putting it off because I didn't want to admit that my relationship could not be saved.

I need to stop asking why we can't be together and acknowledge that our relationship was great, but now it is also broken. Once we start demanding more for ourselves, we'll really believe we deserve better and hopefully we'll get over our breakup (eventually).

I'm in the same boat as you ladies. Except I haven't gone 25 days with No Contact. It's a tough road and I hope I remain sane.