Feeling lost after breaking up
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Feeling lost after breaking up
| Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:15pm |
My boyfriend and I were together for nearly two and 1/2 years .. to be honest, I thought he was the one. Unfortunately, we went our seperate ways and may one day come back together .. but for now, I am having a hard time moving on from what we were. I've met plenty of good guys that have been everything I'm looking for, but somehow they aren't enough. They just don't compare to the love that I once had. I find it hard for myself to stay interested long enough to ever start anything, or to even be physical with them in any way because I still feel so attached to my ex. Is this normal? What can I do to move on and smile for what I was blessed with for those two years? I would just like to be in a comfortable place where I can be happy again, but there is never a day where he doesn't cross my mind. I guess what I'm asking is if anyone else goes through this, finding themselves emotionally and physically unavailable to men after losing what could've been the love of their life.

hi,
How long ago did you break up? I guess that would determine (a little) why the feelings are still fresh and why you can't open up to the possibility of a new guy just yet.
I think it is normal to have those lingering feelings; you're human and you can't just shut them off with the flip of a switch. There are things to try and help speed the process up though (thought-stopping technique, therapy, reading, journaling, etc.) But really honestly, I think only time can help truly heal these lingering feelings.
My relationship with my ex ended about 4 months ago and I still think about him every day, whether I want to or not. (and I don't mean the 'oh i miss him so/he was my everything' feelings all the time) I am just now feeling like there is a slight chance I could picture myself with someone else. It is hard, but know that your feelings are normal and somewhere down the line you'll be able to open up to someone new. Don't beat yourself up over this, take whatever time you need.
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hi
i have been there and it just happened to me-a breakup that i cant believe. my g/f got back from Spring Break 4 wks ago and said she is not ready for a relationship. i was hurt and physically could not sleep, eat well, or do anything.
for the first time i fell for someone who i was dating. i have dated before but never have i felt so lost and unable to focus knowing that i am not going to wake up with her.
we may get back together later but i dont think its going to happen. some guy will come by and sweep her off her feet, and probably do things better than i can or could have and i'll lose her forever
it sucks and i am just bitter, angry, and do not want to see anyone. i said some of what i had planned but she woulnt change her mind. i have been listening to Nick Lachey's new cd...and i feel like my heart is gone...and she can have whats left of me
i have listened to his cd more than any cd i have ever bought. he is going through a bad break up with Jessica and i feel what he is feeling.
everyone says it wil get better. maybe. but i agree with you that its not the same
this might not have helped but i just wanted to let u know that i'm feeling what u are feeling