Feeling Melancholy

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Registered: 11-19-2007
Feeling Melancholy
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 11:42am
Quick summary, my ex gf of 5 years broke up with me this past November and I was heartbroken.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 12:13pm

It is a weird feeling. I was very in love with my last long term relationship, when I realized I wasn't in love anymore, for me was more of a relief, but I know it's different for you.


I finished Great Lion of God - it was excellent. ;)





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Registered: 11-19-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:22pm

Good to hear, I'll have to pick that up.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 2:15pm

::I don't regret

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:27pm

I was just about to start a discussion on how hard Valentines day has been, when I read your post.

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Registered: 10-02-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:30pm

Have you seen the movie Swingers?

Toward the end of the movie this guy is having a heart to heart with this guy who has ben mourning his girlfriend for over 6 months.
One of the things he says is that after all that sadness and grief towards the end of the process that's all you have left of that person.

The pain and grief becomes that one last link you have to that person you loved. And letting that go is like the final frontier. And it is sad.

Your post made me think about that part of the movie.

It's ok to be melancholy.

I know how you feel. Letting go is sad, hard and heartbreaking.

But you are doing great ;)

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Registered: 11-19-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 4:06pm

From the sound of it your ex probably has not moved on yet if he is calling 5x a week just to say hi.

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Registered: 11-19-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 4:07pm

thats funny you brought that up, I was telling a friend about this last weekend and he mentioned that scene in the movie as well.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 5:00pm

rossjack


thank so much for your words, its been a rough day.

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Registered: 10-02-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 9:44pm

hey rossjack

I found the clip for you on youtube!

It's brilliant, there's a lot of profanity, so head's up: but enjoy! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8slB-mYCPw&feature=related

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Registered: 11-19-2007
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 4:04pm
thank you...i've heard nothing but great things about that movie.