Feeling need to contact him

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Registered: 07-23-2006
Feeling need to contact him
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 5:14pm

Hello again, I'm having a need to contact him again and ask him if we can start over. But the way he broke up with me, he sounded angry over the phone after I called him after he texted me it was over. Then when I went to see him in person, he just told me to leave, 'bye'. No hug, kiss, or anything. I feel it's my fault because we went to a party and he told me how he liked other girls hair and eyes. I didn't like how mine looked so instead of feeling bad and crying I told him I saw a cute guy and that's why I went to the kitchen. Everyone told me I was wrong for doing this. We had one similar fight before. Before this call, he was picking a fight with me and I had to hang up because he kept talking to mean and I was telling him to stop so I told him bye and hung up. Despite this, I still fell for him. We were together for five months.

I sent him a letter via e-mail. He responded and said we should just be friends because we fight too much. He sent me a text saying maybe we can go out sometime and that he couldn't do this love.

I feel horrible, I really wish I could tell him can we start over again because I think we can work it out. Would it be okay to contact him?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 10:14pm

Welcome to the board esorogidni,


Five months and you two fight like you do, about the things that you fight about and you two delibrately try to hurt each other.

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Registered: 07-23-2006
Sun, 09-02-2007 - 11:12am
I never tried to deliberately hurt him on purpose. He used to pick fights with me for the smallest things and make me feel so bad. I decided not to call him as hard as it is for me, I know it's best. I left the house and my phone for the whole day and that helped and plan to do whatever it takes. I know it will take time I wish this would go away overnight. It was driving me crazy to stay home. I know I made the right choice.


Edited 9/2/2007 11:14 am ET by esorogidni
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Sun, 09-02-2007 - 1:13pm
Good for you esorogidni.
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Registered: 07-23-2006
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 11:23pm
He contact me to see how he was doing. He said he missed me. After thinking long and hard because it was hurting me just to do it, ( I wasn't even sure if it was right thing) I messaged him and told him I couldn't talk to him right now because it's too fast, still going through things. I feel okay in doing that. I actually felt better when I heard from him. I do prefer to be friends then out of life forever. In our situation, I don't know how we can be friends after the way he broke up with me. Maybe I need a lot of time. I was just following my heart.