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| Mon, 03-17-2008 - 4:16pm |
Me and my boyfriend broke up two days ago. I was upset while we were talking and I cried a little and even after he left I cried and we were both crying. My problem is, I haven't cried since. I think I feel more relieved that its over than sad that he's gone. I keep remembering the good times we had and being sad to see those go forever, but I can't bring myself to really grieve this relationship, and it is worrying me.
About 8 months ago, we broke up for two months. I was devastated and I couldn't think about anything else and it absolutely consumed me. I cried every day and constantly thought about him and called him and this time, knowing it is truly over for good, I have no desire to call him. Is this bad? Is this just the calm before the storm? Am I still waiting for it to hit me that he is actually gone?
Sidenote: We both saw this coming all week, so I think I was getting prepared for it. Also, even though we have broken up and gotten back together before, I know that it won't happen again because it is under different circumstances. We decided we just aren't compatible and we have to stop trying to make it work.
Any advice about this is helpful!

Welcome to the board justgo2007,
Well, I'm not sure if it's fortunately or unfortunately, but when you go through multiple break-ups with the same person at some point they get a little easier. It's like the full connection has been damaged in some way or one person is holding back afraid to get hurt again.
I feel the same way.