Feeling unlovable
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Feeling unlovable
| Thu, 09-08-2005 - 3:53pm |
It's been two days since I broke up with my boyfriend. I've still been crying a lot, wondering when I'll feel better. It helps me to know that other people feel hurt like I do. I haven't spoken to my ex, and I don't know if I'm going to. I've been feeling scared today. The thought of being alone - single, lonely, by myself - makes me want to vomit. I look around and see couples and wonder if anyone will ever love me again. and wondering if I could ever love someone again. I just feel hopeless right now- like there's no way I am ever going to feel happy again. I don't want to be alone forever - I want someone to love and appreciate me, and right now, that seems impossible.

Hey girl...I hear you. I was with a man for three years and we broke up six months ago. I am doing great now and we still talk once every couple weeks but when we first broke up I was a train wreck. I had to move out of our house and into an apartment in another town and go to bed alone at night. Oh, it was awful. But I reached out to my friends and had tons of girl's nights out and went out on dates and within no time I was happy. You two broke up for a reason and right now that reason may not be clear or make sense but in time it will, I promise. You will be okay. Just don't stay home alone this weekend. Go out and have fun, even if you have to do something you would normally never do, go do something, fun, exciting, different. If you were in my town I'd be taking you out for girl's night this weekend. Im sending hugs your way, IT WILL GET BETTER!!!
anna
Hang in there! I think a lot of people can relate to that fear of being alone. For some reason, it helped me to make a list of all the people in my life I could really count on - family, friends, coworkers, etc., and that helped me to see that even if I wasn't in a relationship anymore, I certainly wasn't alone or unloved in this world.
It's been about five weeks since my breakup, and so many people around me have been invaluable. I agree with the previous poster about not being alone - even if you aren't up to doing much, just having a friend there is nice.
Big hug-