The feeling like you will be alone forev

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Registered: 10-07-2003
The feeling like you will be alone forev
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 12:47am
You know when you just break up with someone and you feel like, that it! Ill never find someone else...Ill be alone forever. Thats how I feel right now. I am only 20 years old and In university but he was my first love and we were together for over a year. I feel like Ill never find anyone as special again. I guess Im just looking for some words of insipration or something ..i dunno..i feel like crap.
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Registered: 09-06-2005
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:52am
hi there, i know the feeling very well, so i understand what you are feeling about being alone forever. I know you've probably heard this from many people so you may resent me for saying it AGAIN...but, you are only 20 which leaves you so much time to find "Mr. Right"....At the same time, i don't think you should worry about being alone forever...i think that we should all get used to and really enjoy being by ourselves...therefore, if we meet someone new and it works out, then it's a bonus, and if it doesn't work out and we never find "mr. right", then because we are so secure in ourselves and we truely love ourselves, we will be okay being by ourselves......i'm not fully there yet myself, but i'm working towards that. I did and sometimes still go through the whole "i'm going to be alone forever" phase....i'm 28 and ended a 4 year relationship which probably would have led to marriage(we lived together for 2 yrs)...and every now and then i think to myself.."what the hell was i thinking breaking up with him......i'm 28, i'm not no spring chicken anymore...", but, i'm trying very hard not to think like that anymore....i think it's all about looking at ourselves and why/what causes us to feel/think a certain way...and working through that...it's also about just shifting our minds to a new/different level of thinking.
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Registered: 09-22-2005
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 6:01pm

I know how you feel, and it is not a good feeling.

Nikki
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Registered: 05-10-2005
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 11:10pm

Hi there,
I know its hard when you're sad to see what you do have, but try to look at all the relationships that you value in your life - family, friends, etc. Sometimes it helps to think about your support system, and you realize that you aren't alone after all. Of course, its not the same as having a boyfriend, but it can help you feel less alone.

None of us know for sure when our next relationship will come along, and how long it might last. That's the hardest part I think. But in the meantime, the best advice I can give is not to wait - do the things that you really want to in life.

A big hug-