feels like i'm losing my mind

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Registered: 09-28-2006
feels like i'm losing my mind
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Sat, 10-06-2007 - 5:13pm
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Registered: 05-13-2006
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 5:35pm

I'm so sorry.

From my experience, men back off when they feel they're in over their head.
Mirror his actions, and he'll soon come running.

They like to think they're amazing, they're the centre of your world. You live for them.
As soon as you show them you've got a life, and you're unavailable, they want you. Because theres then a chase. They want what they can't have, if they get too much, they're not interested.

i know its horrible to sit at home thinking "please god, call me" but just distract yourself. I would say switch your phone off and leave it til next week, but i know i can't do that. If he calls, don't answer, and if you do, pretend your really busy and ask if you can call him back in about an hour, but dont tell him what you're doing, just say "I'm busy" and leave it at that. Roles will then be reversed and he'll be feeling how you are. Once he knows you're fully on board with how it is, he'll balance out and stop messing you about.

Again, this is all from my experience, it may not work for you, but it always has done for me

Hope i could help! :)

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Registered: 09-28-2006
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 6:05pm
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Registered: 05-13-2006
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 6:11pm

i love arranging "accidental" bump ins. I just always say "hello stranger, you ok" and see where it leads.

I wish you loads and loads of luck!!