The final break-up is killing m
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The final break-up is killing m
| Tue, 05-17-2005 - 9:32am |
Hi all - I broke up with my bf of 5 yrs a week ago...we've broken up and gotten back together so many times before I guess I really thought he would've called by now to patch things up. He's never gone this long without making some kind of contact either via email for phone but now that the reality of the situation has sunk in, I'm devastated. I can't seem to sleep, don't feel like eating and just generally don't feel like participating in life. It's hard to make it through the day w/o crying which is difficult at work. I feel like I'm dying inside. I know you all are experiencing this too, but any tips to help make the days easier? I don't know what to do with myself. One friend has said to call/email him but I can't seem to do that as I feel like this must be what he wants this time. Help please.

i'm so sorry because I sort of can relate to you. My ex of about 1.5 years and I broke up in November and since then have gotten back together and broken up 2 other times. Now it is as if he and I are on the brink of round 5. Accordingly, it makes the breakups not seem real at all and that he will always come back.
All I can say to you is that you have to have to, have to want some stability in your life and the rocky track of a relationship that goes foul every once in a while is no way to be healthy.
I suggest not contacting him at this point, but rather thinking to yourself what advantages this relationship gives to you. Maybe even schedule a meeting with a therapist to discuss it.
Best of luck,
Isa