Finally broke up with him but...

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Finally broke up with him but...
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Sun, 01-02-2011 - 2:53pm

I've been with my bf for 5 years and during that time I've posted on almost every relationship board about his cheating, lying, disrespect, meaness and controlling way. Each time the responses were the same - leave him and move on with my life. But I never could do it. I tried breaking up with him many times but in my heart I didn't really want to so I always took him back. Now things are worse than ever. We barely speak and he has taken to sleeping on the sofa most nights. I know he's not attraccted to me thought he denies it, and we very rarely have sex. We don't go anywhere together and he's always criticizing me though I'm the one taking care of everything. He hasn't worked in two years. He still has a ton of women in his phone and goes to visit his "sister" far too often. Like now, he's supposed to be visiting her but as usual he gets there and I don't hear from him. I called him a few times New Year's Eve and he just tolerated the conversation, he couldn't wait to get off of the phone with me. Once the New Year came in I texted him Happy New Year and he texted back saying that he was having phone problems. He always has "phone problems" when he's "visiting" and true to form he hasn't called since. It seems pretty obvious to me he's cheating. There was one woman in his phone that lives in his siser's area code. That's who is probably going to visit all the time.

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Registered: 06-02-2010
Sun, 01-02-2011 - 3:31pm

Simplyme,

I could have written this

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 01-03-2011 - 2:00am

Thanks Amys. It's always encouraging to hear from someone who has been there. It seems like no contact is the way to go and I'll will give it my best shot. When I think about it I don't hear from him for days at a time when he's away visiting so I can probably do it if I tried. It's funny how he calls all the time when I don't want to talk to him but he never calls when I expect him too. I guess the reason for non-contact is to take away all of the games and