finally hes returning my things
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| Tue, 05-01-2007 - 2:30pm |
Hi
We broke up a month and half ago, and just before i initiated no contact a month ago he said he'd send me back my things at his house. After all this time i was worried it might throw my stuff away as i had nothing returned. Anyways after a gd period of NC, including his birthday a week ago, i felt strong enough to send an email on the matter.
This was it:
Could you please send me back my things, as you said you would, if for any reason this is not possible contact me to make another arrangement. I think I have given you enough time to sort this out.
He responded, like 5 mins later:
yeah sure, Im sorry ive taken ages. Ive had stuff goin on but ill deal with it.
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I know i should be pleased with this reponse, but i can help wondering what 'stuff goin on' has prevented him other than sheer laziness. I thought he might be mad for not hearing from me on his bday, but i just feel this delay is yet another added insult to an altogether terrible break up on his part. Ive had 'stuff goin on as well' what with him ditching me right before the end of uni!
Thanks for reading!

>>stuff going on<<
I love this response. I used to get "I'll call you back I'm busy" I ask what was making him so busy and he'd just say he was "busy". I never knew him to be jam packed with stuff to do! Its just code for I'm too lazy to figure this out. Its too hard to deal with I'll let it go for one reason or another.
A little anecdote:
When I was in class once when I was getting my Masters a professor asked us to go around the room and say whether we thought people, as a whole, are good, bad, lazy, or something else that I can't remember because no one in class choose it. Most of the class said people are good, a few said bad. I said lazy. I was the only one. The professor asked me why I thought people were lazy. I said something along the lines of because they just don't want to do things that is out of their comfort zones, things that make them work a bit harder, do things that aren't easy, etc, etc. He told me I was wrong and that people are not lazy. - I think I struck a nerve in the old man because 1. how can my opinion of people be wrong, its an opinion and 2. he was probably lazy himself and was on to him!