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First date
| Wed, 05-25-2005 - 11:39am |
So, I had a date last night. First date since the breakup. Last time we broke up I didn't really date - I had a couple of blind dates, but I never wanted to go back for the second date. Anyway, this guy was nice, we got along well, etc. The thing is, I can't see myself being intimate with him. Not sure why, he's not unattractive. I think maybe its because I can only see myself with the ex. Is this a common problem after a breakup? Does your attitude change with more dates?

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I totally know where you are coming from.... Heck, I catch myself doing the same thing, comparing everything and nobody seems to measure up. I do think it's good to keep trying though, it almost makes you feel more normal to at least get out there. However, not have any expectations of new love, Just good dinner or conversation. We are all looking for something majical to take over and poof the ex is gone! But alas, there isn't. It goes back to more time, and acceptance. The ex will start to fade away and new guys catch our eye and I think we allow ourselves to see new things, make new memories and new feelings will come up as if we've never had before. (thats what i'm waiting for, lol) And thats not to say we will ever forget our ex's, but we will hold them in a special place. But they don't get the main screen, main plot in our lives any more, they are flashback only, we've got this great new story to live out!
You are doing great, and being strong. One day at a time these days, one foot in front of the other, God bless