First love..trying to get over him again

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Registered: 01-13-2008
First love..trying to get over him again
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 4:26pm

Hey people, i found this website a couple days ago... and have been lurking ever since.... it has already helped me so much to read all these stories about you wonderful ladies... after asking myself.. DOES ANYBODY FEEL THIS WAY.... cuz my friends have no real good advice besides "get laid... and forget about him"... and i'm not like that.....


so here it goes.... this is my story.....


i just broke up with my boyfriend a couple days ago for the second time....... we have been known eachother since about grade seven, and never really liked eachother, and then in highschool summer of grade eleven we started getting really close and hanging out everyday ... i never really wanted a relationship then.... and told myself that i would never fall in love.... we started dating beginning of grade 12, and hewas everything to me, we were best friends and did everything together...
i lost my virginity to him, and he lost his to me..... we taught eachother so much, and saw eachother everyday... i was confinced we were getting married.. and kids and everything.. all my friends would say they were jeleous of how good we were for eachother.... and we had pretty much everything in common.....
i realized i lost contact with alot of people... i am a really outgoing person and love to make friends.... and i thought

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 4:58pm

Welcome to the board gustogirl,


Giref is a process and takes time.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 6:32pm

Gustogirl


The big thing here is that you KNOW you made the best decision for you.

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Registered: 01-13-2008
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 1:31pm

Thank you everybody for your input!!! love to hear it!!! we have not talked for a week at all... and just today he sends me a text asking for sombodys phone number.... i am going to stick with nc... no

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 2:42pm

I would bet he asked for that number just to see if he gets a response from you. C'mon, he could probably get that number from a number of other sources. Stick to it- and don't give him what he's looking for.


On another note, he may keep trying to contact you. It could be his way of working himself back into your life, or it could be an ego boost to him to see how you are. Just know it may likely happen.


My ex calls or contacts me every few days- I'm ok with it only because I know there is no chance of reconciliation- and he is also very much aware. I think he needs to keep in contact because he is still a little attached and I tried to initiate NC, but he won't do it. So I figure we'll do it his way- and its working out just fine so far.