five years and now he dont know???
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five years and now he dont know???
| Tue, 07-10-2007 - 2:39pm |
okay we've been together for five years and everything was fine so i thought i mean i knew he was going threw alot and i tried to be there but he said he wanted to be left alone that i wwas always there and he was tiered of arguing and not being happy...so i asked him if it ws over??? he said he dont know...that a part of him says its over and the other part says that he doesn't want to losse me.....for me just to give him some time a couple of weeks or so....to leave him,.....dont call text, come over etc....i mean he'll call b4 bed but thats it...it has been three days and yesterday he texted and called.....i finaly called him yesterday and told him i dont know how much longer i can do this...i mean it's so much harder to leave him alone.....with the facts that he doesn't know if we are going to work.....so i called and he said that he just started like me again and i went and messed it up!!!! he's making all these plans with out me...he's going here he's going there...??? is it over or is he just confused and feeling smutherd?????? i donno what to think anymore and i'm lossing hope...should i keep holding on??? this hurts so bad......but then i wonder if it hurts more to keep putting up with this or to just let him go and move on????

Girls are diff from guys, girls love to be with someone that will make them feel special and just be there, whereas i think guys need their time or they just feel smothered yes. I know that i would have loved and been very happy spending every second of every day with my man, but i couldn't and thats where i made that mistake.
I think you just need to give him his time he needs and dont push him, if u wanna keep hold of him and you think hes worth it then just dont contact him. I know his reasons and his behaviour seems a bit strange but im still trying to work out alot of things that my ex said and did and i dont think i will ever work them out.
Perhaps after hes got over his little episode and has finally come to his senses you need to have a good long chat with him and ask all these questions that he has left hanging. Five years is a very long time to suddenly act this way, maybe hes just having some emotional problems with himself and is trying to figure them out. Is he a very secretive person who hides his emotions then explodes like this every now and again? Maybe this is just his way of "expressing" his feelings.
In the meantime you probably need to do some thinking yourself, like does this relationship have a future? I know for a fact that i love my ex so much and would love to have him back, but then i think, we really wasnt going anywhere..