Fool again

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Fool again
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:39pm

Hi everyone,
I've been on this message board for months reading everyone's postings and trying to get over an ex.

This is my first time posting a message and don't know where to start. So I will keep it short and simple. After being dumped by my ex for the 3rd time, I contacted him on Thursday after 4 months via email just to see how he was doing. The fact is I miss him soooo much and was wondering how he can just forget I ever existed. It was a short simple email saying hi and hoping things were well with him. I didn't know what to expect. His reply was so imformal and nonchalant. I feel like a fool for having no self control. He's made his feelings obvious and I guess I just need to accept it. Our last break-up was out of the blue---he just stopped calling and chose to ignore me. I guess it's very difficult since he was my first boyfriend. I know there will be others....but I feel like he was the one. I guess I just needed to vent.

Thanks

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Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: hema7778
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:26pm

I hope we haven't been played by the same guy lol! Just think, the girl he's seeing, or at least the one you know about, she has no idea what she's getting into. He doesn't love her. It's hard to resist, but some people I believe we just have to stay away from. I've been able to become friends with all my old b'friends, but this guy... grrrr, I just can't be in contact with him. I'm drawn to him, despite my better judgement that I deserve better, so I just have to stay away! You definitely deserve better too, write hear when you feel weak. I too never wanted to make him mad, and cut him off, for fear he might change his mind. I've always been graceful and walked away, but enough is enough. This is queen doormat speaking... WE ARE BEAUTIFUL, STRONG, LOVING WOMEN, AND DESERVE A MAN WHO WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS JUST TO LOVE US!!

Keep in touch
Gracey grace

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Registered: 05-18-2004
In reply to: hema7778
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:54pm

I am with you.. I can not be his friend either.. there is too much that has happened. I am best to not even talk to him either. He wants to be friends with benefits. He stayed at my house on a thurs, took here to eat on a Sat and then took me out to eat on that Mon, that is fine, if you know about it and you arent being lied to about it. I was pretty mad about it....and that was the same Sat I was out of town and he told me he didnt care what I did. But then he called me that Sunday to see if I was back in town or not.

I leave for my trip tomorrow afternoon....so I wont be on here until after Sunday after tomorrow at 1. I am thankful for my friends and family and the people on here for their support. I am going to be so busy, I wont have time to worry about him. This is the way it was over Mem. day weekend, when he didnt call, it didnt really bother me until I got to work and wasnt busy.

I started reading why men loves bitches and how to stop being a doormat....it is pretty good...and really hits home.

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Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: hema7778
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 2:14pm
Yah, I need that book for sure.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2004
In reply to: hema7778
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 2:24pm

I feel like you are speaking on behalf on my heart---it's so funny how you are so in-tuned with what I am going thru! It's sad we're are going thru this but hopefully one day you and I can look back at all the things we done and smile--maybe even laugh.

I can't even talk to my friends about this anymore because they'll get upset that I am putting myself thru this rollercoaster of diaster, but I'm glad that they are people like yourself who understands and gives great advice.

Please let's keep in touch.
Hema

Good luck to you and take care.

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