Forgetting him.... (??)

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Forgetting him.... (??)
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 11:06am

I have been working really hard on moving on and forgetting about my ex. It's probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do, and it's what I expected. That's also probably why I have been avoiding it, and just focusing on getting him back.

Well, I have decided that I don't want him back. I'm a better person when I'm not with him. But I keep on telling my self that he will eventually tell me what a huge mistake it was to leave me, and come crawling back. I can't get over the fact that he's over me.

Everyone keeps telling me that the best revenge is to be happy and lead a successful life. And it seems like as soon as you forget about somthing, then it comes back in your life. It makes me feel better to think that he may regret it one day.

Do I have problems for wanting this? And does it even work??

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 6:19pm
Everyone has such great advice, suggestions, but as was mentioned before everyone heals at their own pace and it takes TIME. I use to hate that word, TIME. It's been almost 2 yrs since my b/f and I had split and I am still trying to forget him. I think a majority of the time, women feel huge amounts of guilt and primarily to blame for a relationship failing. Why? Because we are emotional creatures and can be more so than men. Mine lasted 4 1/2 yrs and I was so convinced he was the one. There are many times I feel that if I had made better choices or if I treated him differently we would still be together, and maybe so...I fight with depression all the time. Yes, sometimes because it does get lonely and single people can get depressed more often than those who have someone in their lives. For me taking care and loving someone completes me and makes me happy. Of course we are human and that has been instilled in us. At any rate, it's a day to day battle and I know in time I will be able to move on with my life, but at the moment have accepted the state it's in...who knows it could take me another yr.

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