Friend flirting with ex

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Registered: 06-07-2011
Friend flirting with ex
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Tue, 06-07-2011 - 12:36pm

Well I guess the backstory is that my ex and I have dated on-off for the past 3 years. He broke up with me in the middle of May this year and I have gone about 9 days without saying a word to him. He broke up with me. After we started getting close again, he would become distant, which I admit made me clingy, and he never told me he wanted space, which I wish he would have, but he was really really distant the last week and the last day we were together he said he was thinking about ending it. He asked if I'd rather him break it off in person, phone, etc, and I said person. I asked him if it was over and he said yes and drove off.

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 1:16pm
I would advice you to not attend any function where both of them are going to be there till your feelings , anger ,etc. has settled down . If you tell your friend anything about it , she might get defensive and argue that since you are not the guy , she is free to flirt with him etc etc. It may get nasty.Its better to avoid her and revisit after a while.

OTOH, is your ex reciprocating to her advances? As it is , you are broken up , you should let go as to whom he sees or what he does,You wont be able to move on and heal if you are constatnly checking on him.