Friends after breakup?
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| Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:35pm |
So heres the story - I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years on Jan. 3. The reason? We had been dating since I was 16 and he was 18 and I thought maybe we needed a break to experience being single since we had dated each other since we even thought about having a bf/gf. I still love him very very much and he will always be my best friend. So I finally did it on Jan. 3 and immediaetly knew I had made the wrong decision. I held off for a week thinking it was normal to feel this way but after a week I couldnt take it anymore. I asked him if we could talk and he agreed and I told him what a huge mistake I made and I love him more than anything. He said he understands why I broke up with him and he cant just jump back into a relationship after the "week of hell he just went though" and suggested we talk the following week and see what are feeling are. So we talked the following week and he said maybe it was a good idea that we broke up because he just graduated college and wanted to travel a bit before establishing his life and finding a job. It hurt but I understood. Then I started thinking...if I hadnt broken up with him in the first place, would have have ever thought about the need to travel? I go crazy when I am wondering about things so I called him and asked him the questions that I had going through my mind. He explained his reasoning and told me his whole plan for this summer and the route that he is going to take on his roadtrip.
After that talk, we have emailed each other everyday, sometimes twice and we have talked on the phone 3 times for over an hour each time. I told him he should download AIM so we could chat and we have talked online for the past 4 nights for over 2 hours each time just joking about things, nothing serious. I love this relationship we have going but I dont understand why he is putting so much time into it but still doesnt want to actually be in a relationship with me. I thought maybe because he doesnt want to get in a relationship and then have to leave to go on his roadtrip and possibly find a job in another state. But then again, how can he be sure that I will be here waiting for him when he gets back? Why does he want to take that chance?

Hi perns02, welcome to the board.
Sounds like you two can do it.
So are you no longer bored with the relationship?