Friends with benefits with an ex?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2006
Friends with benefits with an ex?
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 11:05am

Men

What are your thoughts on being friends with benefits with an ex? well i actually want to casually date/like go places and what not. also when i joked about having a stronger sex drive with him and wanting to have sex everyday he said hed try to oblige. then when i mentioned he didnt do that when were together as bf/f he said it was because of the emotional strings? (not quite sure what that means) Also does this hurt/help your chances of getting back together in the future. also how many times do guys in general break up and get back together. my ex and i broke up then got back together then broke up yesterday. i actually already miss him more than i expected and although i had originally planned on a no contact policy im reconsidering. just not sure what the ramifications might be.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2007
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 11:29am
I think if a bloke cares for and respects you he would not want to have just casual sex with you. Men, as we all know, would not usually say no to a bit of casual bed time with a girl... however, the same men, would never do that to a girl he genuinely respects because then it is just pure physical and sexual gratification. He has already told you his expectations - no strings attached. This is only my personal view obviously.