Friends mantra
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Friends mantra
| Wed, 10-24-2007 - 1:57pm |
ugh. i now want to be friends with this guy.
that would involve yet more being ignored (what he does best) followed up by spurts of attention interrupted by him looking at other women.
yeah. somebody please talk me out of this. i keep visualizing having the "ok, i do want to be friends" conversation for some reason, even though i'd get even LESS respect than i did before.
(if that is possible, since i was last on his priorities after all his friends. or maybe it is, SINCE i would now become one & trump his new g-friends.)
ok, i admit it, i'm confused.

because in my head, he's the sweet guy he was at the beginning.
i can't seem to write over that program...!
(ha, nice way of commenting w/out telling me i'm an idiot. thanks.)
LOL - happy to help :0)
i also want the 1 guy i can't have. in spite of all the others that want me.
ooops.
need some reprogramming here, not sure how to go about it...
the thing i need to remember is, men love a challenge even more than women do (generally). & he wanted me as long as i DIDN'T want him. hard to incorporate that when you get all involved. ugh.
so that means he wants what he can't have too. gotta make sure that's me, just for some post-break-up success i guess...
ok, hopefully that rebooted me for the day. thx carrie!Edited 10/24/2007 2:21 pm ET by devuchka
wow, that's profound. see i said you were wise, & it's true.
that's kinda like putting a band-aid in the wrong place then, eh?
hmmm. i'll have to reflect upon that...
yeah, that helps. i'm doing a lot of that. makeover, moving, incorporating the things into my life that i liked about his. i like the thought about a habit & breaking it. very helpful.
i know he was crappy & i deserved better, i just keep remembering the beginning when he wasn't. & the things i did that made him lose interest or attraction (very aware of these).
i have a hard time letting go. keep going back to "if onlys" & then i'm back where i started.
but it doesn't really matter what i think & feel. if he doesn't miss me back, there was not enough affection from his side. i don't really think he really likes anyone, or himself for that matter. he seemed to be blase about his last g-friend leaving, kinda whatever, so if that's all he cares then what am i wasting my energy for - on someone who just doesn't love people.
not only that, he lies to all his friends too. so i got the best side he had...& it wasn't good enough. or truthful. i guess why go back for more lies...
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"If someone is not treating you
maybe you can be friends... at some indeterminate point in the future. but not right now.
i have to say, i hope not ever given that he doesn't treat you with respect. you deserve to be treated with respect.
it sounds to me like it will only make you unhappy to be around him. which means he is not your friend.
I think i sound a little hypocritical giving advice when i am in the same boat.