Friends w/Benefits.....or no?
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Friends w/Benefits.....or no?
| Mon, 12-13-2004 - 3:30pm |
Hi all - I am an ocassional poster her and also a "lurker" and I just wanted to throw something out there for anyone who wanted to answer. Do you think that women are capable of having "friends w/benefits"? I only ask, because in the past I have had a couple of these relationships, with great results. They were after particularly hard break ups, and really, really, helped me get over things. They were both men that I knew there was not a future with, men that I had great friendships already established with and we both understood the ground rules from the beginning. I have often thought now that it might do me some good again, but I really don't know anymore. Maybe b/c I am no longer in my 20s, maybe b/c I am a mom now, and it's not all about me anymore, or maybe, b/c now I know what I want and I am not willing to settle. Whatever the case may be for me, I was just wondering what the general consensus on this type of relationship was. TIA for anyone who wants to add their $.02!

I think there ARE women out there who can have FWB r'ships without getting emotionally involved, but I think they are much more the exception than the rule. I am not able to sleep with someone more than once or twice without getting emotionally attached, so I have stopped trying to do something that I obviously am not capable of. I wish I could...it would make things easier when I'm between r'ships, but oh well, you have to accept yourself as you are.
Sheri
My ex bf dumped me a few months ago telling me that after 5 months all I was to him was a "friend with benefits" and that hurt more than anything else being told that. I never EVER in a million years believed that's what we were because we never EVER discussed being that .. we were a couple, who dated, spent everyday together and met each other's friends etc. The whole couple thing. The words "friends with benefits" are just words I think. Honestly after being with someone physically, you are going to get attached. I do believe some people can do it, but for me - no way I could. Just my two cents!
Lynne