FURIOUS!
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| Thu, 06-14-2007 - 3:21pm |
Hi all,
I'm just SO angry now. When we broke up, I was too sad to really think about everything he put me through. Now it's all sunk in. I think about how he mistreated me towards the end, how he put EVERYONE before me, how he never had time for me. I think about how I would have done anything for him. i think about how he brought up getting engaged, then he breaks up with me over my "commication" issues (!!!) How how essentially led me on and played with my emotions...I also think about how he didn't have the guts to break up with me face to face, so he did it over the phone...and how condescending he was when we broke up. It also makes me angry how he still talks to MY FRIENDS after he dumped me, like he did nothing wrong, and how he actually has the nerve to be ANGRY at me for not wanting to speak to him (I haven't spoken to him since we broke up almost 2 months ago).
I'm just so MAD. I want to confront him, but I know it won't do any good. He thinks he is perfect, and has no flaws. I want to tell him off so I can get some kind of closure. He'll never go away. We have mutual friends in common. I don't know how to get past this.
Thanks for reading.

I have been struggling with the same issue. When I think I can't control it, I either come here or I think about what he would think about it. In his eyes it would be justifying the break up. It would also give him something to point out to new girl, "see, thats why I dumped her, she's crazy!" I wll not give him the satisfaction of knowing that he has enough influence over me to get me that upset. Don't let him know how much it matters to you, it will just make him feel good to know he has that kind of power.
Find closure in your own mind and heart, don't ever expect it to come from him or because you got the last word.
Don't let him rent space in your head for free!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, let's just say I had some serious rage issues but I have learned this guy is a complete jerk. Selfish and egotistical and I am so much better off without him dragging me down. I sound like most people...it will take a while but it just does. One tip, working out is a super way to get out the negative energy...and I feel pumped and happy when I leave. Strong. So, just a tip that I recommend. It will subside and you will thank yourself. Don't get me wrong, I am not completely healed but I am going in a direction that is SO much more healthy. Hang in there :)
My ex was seeing someone else too and my oh my do I have rage issues! Exercise really does help! I have been walking, doing pilates, a little yoga when I need to chill.
It really does help.
Walk it off girl!
I actally just ran into me ex on the street about an hour ago. After a month of no seeing him (He pulled a dissapearing act on me). He just said to me he was sorry "how things went down" He says he was stressed and still is. SO basically he is sorry, but not really taking any responsibility for being a jerk. I guess he is so stressed, it's just too much for him.
I told him I didn't have much to say to him and that he was a jerk and to have a nice life, bye. The thing is I could have torn him a new one, but I just felt at this point, he knows he messed up, is not really willing to take any responsibility for his actions (poor me, I am so stressed), therefore I have no time to think about him and what could have been again. I just feel like I dodged a bullet. After all, if he gets like this every time he is stressed out, he will probably blow me off and dissappear every time. Best part is he had this pathetic puppy look in his face and I just kept looking at him with discust. I think that says more to him that anything I could have said.
I also look really good today. Most important way to move forward is to look your best and be your best. Even if he never realizes he lost out, you know it yourself. I would have been the best most supportive girlfriend and he has lost that opportunity. Now he is alone and even if he has someone else by now, I know it's not the same kind of relationship he could have had with me.
Wow! I couldn't have said it better myself! My bf ended our relationship a few weeks ago and your message really hit home for me! He spent a lot of his time (way too much time) criticizing me about everything you could imagine. I tried and tried and tried to please him but nothing I did could warrant one compliment (not one!). And in the end HE broke up with ME. And yes, I too was last on his list. Everyone and everything came before me. I thought after eight years and my undying devotion would move me up the list a few notches, but no. My friend just let me borrow the book "It's called a breakup because its broken" and it is wonderful in helping the healing process. It really makes you feel you are not alone in going through the process.
Every day it gets better, I sleep a little better and I cry a little less. I saved some quotes from other messages I have read and I would like to share them with you. They really help. I reflect on them often.
"You can't win the un-winnable man."
"When you find yourself crying (in the relationship) more than laughing, it is time to step back and reevaluate things."
"I am responsible for my own happiness - not him."
Good luck! You will survive!